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writes:I’m a guy who’s a 24 year old virgin. I intend on saving my virginity for the woman I love on our wedding night. But I’m curious to know if a relationship could work if we had different beliefs on sex? For example, like if she saw sex as not a big deal and I do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2007): I think it does make things difficult (I want to save sex for my wedding night too) because finding a partner who's willing to wait can be hard. I think that's really inportant in a relationship, that your partner wants to wait, and if not then maybe she isn't for you. If she loves you she should be prepared to wait. Admittedly, it is hard, though, when you meet a nice girl (or a nice guy, in my case) and then having to tell them you won't be sleeping with them, doesn't always go over well, particularly with men. There's not many around who are willing to be celibate. you my friend, are a very rare breed!! Best wishes, I hope everything works out for you :)
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reader, Dr. John  +, writes (11 February 2007):
 I must say sir that I applaud you for your decision to remain chaste.
With things the way they are nowadays you are one in a million.
There are always a thousand concerns when scoping out a prospective marriage mate. However, in most cases the concerned parties will usually come to a compromise or a happy medium.
In a case like this it is not unusual for one or the other to find that it is not at all what they expected. This is not always a bad thing but often to the good.
Best wishes. Doc.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (10 February 2007):
 If you go out with a woman and she doesn't respect your views on not wanting to have sex before marriage then she's not the one for you, plain and simple. Anyone who had any feelings for you would concentrate on getting to know you better first as a person in order for the relationship to grow.
You have to remember too that if you are serious about not wanting to have sex before marriage you need to take control and make sure you don't get yourself into awkward situations where both of you are alone and emotions start to kick in.
I commend you on your morals though, there's not a lot of men left in the world today who want to wait until their wedding night before consumating their feelings through making love for the first time on their wedding night. Good for you! ;o)
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2007): If she is ready to wait for you until you get married then the relationship should work. If she really loves you she'll wait. If not then you know that she isn't worth it.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (10 February 2007):
Hmm it really comes down to the two people. Some people may be able to make it work, some not. It just depends if both people are willing to come to some agreement which does not force either to sacrifice & change their beleifs and values. So if say you believe sex should be saved for marriage and your gf beleives in having sex before marriage is ok, she could also perhaps understand that saving sex for marriage is important to you and may be willing to wait as well for you. This way you are not changing your beleifs, you are keeping them and it could work out. However some people may not be prepared to wait. This is just something that would happen. Just make sure you dont change your beleifs for someomone based on the fact that it may be hard to find somoene who is willing to accept yours and wait with/for you.
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reader, happytochat +, writes (10 February 2007):
Hmm it really comes down to the two people. Some people may be able to make it work, some not. It just depends if both people are willing to come to some agreement which does not force either to sacrifice & change their beleifs and values. So if say you believe sex should be saved for marriage and your gf beleives in having sex before marriage is ok, she could also perhaps understand that saving sex for marriage is important to you and may be willing to wait as well for you. This way you are not changing your beleifs, you are keeping them and it could work out. However some people may not be prepared to wait. This is just something that would happen. Just make sure you dont change your beleifs for someomone based on the fact that it may be hard to find somoene who is willing to accept yours and wait with/for you.
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