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writes:HiI am an 18 year old christian male and have been great friends with a 14 year old christian female. She has liked me from the beginning however i told her we couldnt be together due to the age difference at this stage of her life. However we have been in regular contact every day and have grown together so much. Would it be acceptable to engage in a relationship. We both believe in sex after marriage so none of that is a problem. Cheers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2007): no you shouldnt have told her that nothing can happen between you, if the relationship was going to be sexual, yes i understand why you should leave it a few years but for a non sexual relationship, i think theres nothing wrong with you dating her i think you should change your mind and tell her you will date her! theres nothing wrong with it when sex isnt involved, the most you'l be doing is kissing cuddling etc and thats fine, take her back before you lose her to a younger guy
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys so much. Very appreciated. I told her last night that nothing can/will happen in the near future. It's a crappy situation but it is the right thing to wait i think.Thanks so much for your help guys!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2007): I think that you should leave your relationship for a few years. You need to wait until she is over sixteen before starting a relationship with her. When she's a few years older then it's exceptable to embark in a proper relationship with him. Let her enjoy having relationships with guys her age first. Also if you can wait a few years then she'll know that you aren't going to be someone who's just going to use her for romantic needs.
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reader, Sam23  +, writes (10 February 2007):
Hi,It sounds like you want to have a relationship with this girl, who is a few years younger than you but have chosen not to so far because others might judge it inappropriate.You make a point of stating that you are both christian, suggesting that you see this relationship as possible because you both have smiliar values and beliefs. This is important, but it does not necessarily mean that she is any more mature than a non-christian girl of the same age.Bearing this in mind, consider the limitations and difficulties in having a relationship with this girl, and if you feel like these problems can be overcome then there is no reason why you should not have a relationship.You say that you both do not want sex before marriage, this is something that definately needs to stay the same in any potential relationship, as long as your girlfriend is underage.Good Luck !
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