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writes:Well here it goes, I've been chatting online with some girl for a few months now and believe i'm in love, here is how it all happened, and all i'm wondering is.. Is it possible? can it happen? does she really love me?It all started online in some random chat box (xat chat) to be precise. We started talking about the most random things, this lasted about a week until she asked if I had an email address so that she could talk to me more frequently without having to log into that program. We chatted for approximately 2 months without really asking the question ( if she loves me or if I love her ). We both knew we lived in totally different countries, I being from Canada and her being in Croatia. We had it thought out that our friendship had nothing to do with looks, so we never bothered to send each other pictures, or even use the webcam. We did use microphones and talked on them from time to time.Now this is all a few months back, to this day... we are still talking everyday or almost everyday, I send her emails every morning when I wake up to go to work and she replies when she wakes up as well. We finally told each other that we loved one another through webcam and microphone. "I thought it means much more to a person when you tell them with your voice and while looking at them then simply typing it down" It's also much harder and can also see what the actual reaction and what emotion they feel when you tell them.Anyhow, since then we have been webcam chatting ever since talking about life.We always talk about our lives, when something is wrong, we talk about it.. sometimes she gets angry and sometimes i get angry :P But in the end, we always reconcile and move on. She always brings up the conversation about hoping to be with me someday either in Canada or anywhere in the world it doesn't matter...Anyhow, could and would this ever work?
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reader, canadianboy101 +, writes (3 June 2012):
canadianboy101 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for these. It's very useful information and allows me to view different perspectives as they all matter to me. I knew other people have had Long distance relationships and not all were successful, or should I say.. hardly any were.
But I feel that I should keep things going with this one and see how the cards play out. I'm not the give up type and i'll keep at it until she either decides to stop or perhaps we live happy ever after.
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reader, mizz.butterflies  +, writes (3 June 2012):
 its working now isnt it?
dont go to croatia though.
u need to meet soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2012): Hi there, I'm someone who has been in this situation before. Is it possible to fall in love with someone who have never met in person? Definitely. Does she love you back? Only time will tell... Not so long ago, I found myself falling in love with a charming and very likeable man who lived 5 hours away from me. We would talk all the time, morning until night, and we had this amazing connection. Beyond anything I'd ever experienced before, it felt like we was destined to be together. Within only a few months, he said he was coming to visit me. We talked endlessly about how excited we were, and making plans on what we could do together during his stay. It all felt so right and so real. He expressed his love for me time and time again, while for me, it took a little longer to realise the extent of my feelings. So I didn't tell him I loved him until I was 100% sure. In the meantime, our communication dropped, quite drastically (on his side). On the first whole day that he didn't contact me I felt so low. I missed him like crazy. A few days later he finally got in touch, asking whether I had stopped talking to him. Obviously this wasn't the case, but we sorted out our 'misunderstanding'. This then started to happen on the regular basis, days would go by and I wouldn't hear anything from him. We had further misunderstandings, and in an effort to make things better I decided to make more effort (i.e initiating contact instead of leaving it to him). However, it seemed that the more effort I put in, the more he drifted away. He started to ignore my messages and when I questioned him, he'd say that he didn't receive any from me (which I believed). It got to a stage where we only spoke once a month, and even still, he expressed his love and devotion to me, and it still seemed so sincere. Except it wasn't. One day when I was checking my Facebook, I saw that his relationship status had changed to 'in a relationship'. That told me everything I needed to know. I was absolutely devastated how he'd emotionally used me and lied to me for such a long time. I've now learnt not to be so naive and trusting towards people I meet online. They aren't always honest and can easily pretend to be someone who they are not. I'm not suggesting that the woman you are involved with isn't genuine. I just wanted to get it across to you that in these situations you need to be very cautious! Because it's not always the fairytale ending that you hope it will be. Having said that, I genuinely hope my situation doesn't reflect yours, and that things work out between you :) best of luck for the future xxx
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