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writes:I am 19 years old and I think I have anxiety. Honestly, since the 6th grade I have been planning for my first kiss and since it has not happened I am freaking for two reasons. 1) I am scared I will be a terrible kisser. 2) That guy will destroy my reputation since he will obviously see that I am not experienced or have not kissed anyone. I honestly don't know what to do! I don't want to be embarrassed by the guy and I want to be a good kisser (and i know practice makes perfect, but still). I just don't know if anyone knows where I am coming from. It's not that I am unattractive or never "talked" to any guy before. I am pretty, I have talked to guys, went on a double dates (lame, i know), and I am highly involved on campus. So i know, it all comes down to my confidence and knowing what to do. I need helppp please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2010): 1) I think by age 19 you should be wise enough to know whether a guy is mature enough to be trusted to not ruin your reputation. Think about it. That would be pretty immature, wouldn't it?2) Practice. Close your hand and kiss the side of it where your thumb and finger line up. Start off with gentle, teasing contact. Plump up your lips and bring pressure. Keep your lips closed. Vary the intensity. Just don't bring a limp, unfocused kiss.3) Remember, it's supposed to be sensual. If the guy knows what he is doing and genuinely wants to be with you, he won't mind if you're inexperienced and will let things progress as you become comfortable. A guy who will plant his face on yours and immediately start to slobber / give you the tongue is probably not the guy who will be a patient / attentive partner.
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reader, WilliamJConn +, writes (23 December 2010):
My advice is to wait until you meet the guy that makes you want to kiss him! The funny thing is, everyone wastes their first kiss on someone - it's the experience that converts to memory. You'll never forget the person you kissed, either, so it's simply important that it's someone you wouldn't mind remembering. The right guy won't care if you're experienced or not....just keep that in mind! But I can promise you that no guy will dump you after just one kiss and I'm absolutely positive you'll learn quickly. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2010): you could try practicing with a pillow xD
it sounds really weird, i know. but i know TONS of people who make out with pillows, teddy bears, walls, their own arms...
it might sound strange , but they seem to get along fine.
if you have a really close friend ( of the same or opposite gender ) and you feel 100 % comfortable, you could ask them to maybe show you how to kiss.
first kisses are always nerve racking, but they only come once in a life time. so make sure your ready for it.
and if you mess up, who cares? just say sorry and that you weren't ready for it.
you could always tell the truth that you have not had a first kiss. or you could twist the truth and say that you haven't had that much kissing experience ..
kissing might just come naturally to you.
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