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female
age
41-50,
*ittle D
writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now , but I am not sure if we should stay together. When I first met him he did not tell me that he and his ex wife were still involved , so of course I fell in love with him. Well eventually I met her but he and I continued our relationship with her knowing. He has now left her , but they continue to share the same house and I live at my own. The problem: she does not know we are still together at his request. He says he is going to build a house for us on the property he just purchased. But he does not want her to know because he does not want to lose everything he has right now. He is also a very controlling person. He will go out and do things and enjoy himself , but does not invite me along nor do things with me. I'm absolutely head over heels in love with him and I have no doubt that he loves me. But how long do we have to love in solitare? My question is should I continue the relationship in hopes that he is going to follow through or should I take my loses now and move on?
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (9 January 2009):
 Please, please cut your losses and ditch this loser!! I don't think I could say it any better than girly69 (you go girl). This guy is obviously a creep. Why do you love someone who is so unworthy of it??? You are devoted to someone who treats you poorly when you could be giving you emotional energy to someone who will return it enthusiastically. There are so many good guys out there who will treat you well, enjoy your company, you'll be nobodies secret and get to do things that normal couples do.
Please don't waste another second on this sucker!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2009): Girl you are absolutely head over heals in love with him ???? sit yourself down and think what makes you so in love the fact that he treats you like crap, the fact that he lied t you from the beginning or the way he goes out and you are not allowed to be there, what attracts you to him? What is your ideal man like loving caring trustworthy committed? Is this man any of this? It doesn’t sound like it my angel is sounds like he is using you (MY PERSONAL OPINION) don’t settle for a cheap lie, you deserve better, all us girls deserve a man who will love honor and respect us.
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