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*igsters
writes:Today I was at a friends house for his pool party, we were messing around and jumping in the pool and stuff and he dived, and his swim trunks came off. Then I jumped in after him(w/ goggles) and then everybody else. Nobody payed any attention to it at all, but, i looked under water, and when i saw him naked, I was turned on. I also think that he might be gay too, should I ask, or should i just wait for some more information? And another thing, I have a girlfriend, but I get turned on by guys,muscular hairy guys, not butt buddies, but hot solo guys, what should I do?Sorry for the long post, but one more question, at the party, we were playing Marco-Polo, and I was "chasing" him. He went underwater and I followed the sound, I went down to tag him and my hand went into his smimming trunks and I touched his penis. At the same time he tried to push me away, and he went down my swimming trunks, and for a couple of seconds, we just sat there and, felt each other's penises.Sorry for the length, but plz help me!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, figsters +, writes (10 July 2008):
figsters is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you to all who answered your advice has helped a lot, I'm still not sure wat my sexual orentation is yet, but I'll remember your advice when my harmones settle and I figure it all out! : )
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reader, Uncle Sneaker  +, writes (7 July 2008):
 For most people, sexuality doesn't settle properly until late teens. Some know for certain much earlier, and for some they still aren't completely sure which way they want to go until very much later. Either way it's not a problem and there's no need to get anxious about it.
It's not unusual in your early teens to find an attraction to your own sex. Your hormones are all over the place for a start, and also I believe that the early sexual urges are sometimes so strong that even if you are quite definitely heterosexual the force of awakening sexual awareness is powerful enough for you to become aroused by almost anything that happens to be around - male, female or the cat next door (well, not quite, but you know what I mean!).
So don't rush to decide or declare whether you are gay or bisexual. You might be. Equally, you might not be. Give it a few years; examine your desires and spend some time thinking - having fantasies, if you like - about both men and women, and see where it all takes you.
Above all, whatever your sexuality, whatever turns you on, ENJOY it. Sexual arousal is one of the greatest joys of life, Make the most of it - just be careful about what you actually do and who you do it with until your urges and emotions have settled properly.
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reader, Jane Dashwood  +, writes (7 July 2008):
Okay take a deep breath.
At you age it is normal to notice oter people. Noticng another guys trucks came off doesn't make you gay. The fact that you like girls and guys, well the PC term is bisexual :)
But word of adivce not think about it too hard most of your current feelings and you WILL hate everyone for saying this but it is true is because you are a teenager. You are still trying to figure yourself out.
Despite common beliefe sexuality is fulid moving from one thing to another. Remember you ARE young and you shouldn't stress the point just yet.
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (7 July 2008):
 You might just be bisexual, if you have a girlfriend and are attracted to females as well as males.Or since you've hit puberty and your hormones are all over the place, you're just curious about your sexuality and are exploring. There's nothing wrong with that at all.Don't sum it up to being gay from now, see how your feelings develop over the next few years - and if you are only attracted to males, then yes sweetie, you are gay. And there's nothing wrong with that.xo
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