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writes:Hi I'm 15 years old and a girl. I have a "thing" with a guy who is also my age. I met him at the local fair and we hit it off really good fast. I'm super bad at texting so in the beginning he'd text me and sometimes I wouldn't respond. Not because I didn't like him but because I was busy doing other things etc. anyways when I was less busy we hung out and I'd reply but now he barely replies and at first he'd get mad at me. Like hell talk to me and then won't say much and stop the conversation by not replying. Is it because he might be busy now or? He still tries to hang out and stuff like I'm not the one who's begging to hang out. I can't tell if he wants to hang out with me to use me because we were kissing and then he asked for a bj and we've literally only hung out three times. I said no and he said okay I'll wait as long as you need babe. I'm really confused if he wants a relationship or not. He'd always FaceTime me and he doesn't much anymore. One time I said his friend was talking to me and he said to tell him "fuck off I have a babe" and I was like but we aren't even dating and he said not YET. Idk help please
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (10 July 2016):
 I'd have to say no.
Look, it's simple. You want a relationship with this guy- and if he wanted the same, you would be HAVING a relationship . Who would be stopping you ? you are single, with no kids, no conflicting work schedules yet, I suppose. If you are not dating yet- it's because either one does not want to. In this case, it's he.
He likes to hang out every now and then, sort of randomly- he surely likes to make out , in the hope of getting to something more , soonish.
As for texting, since you say that you were bad at texting that could be the same for him. In theory. But in practice, if you have noticed a change , and a decrease rather than an increase of interest,- if he 's got nothing to say to you, does not want to Face Time, does not try to get to know you better....if he never asked you out on a proper date, if the few times you " hung out " was always and only about making out....
Well, you are only 15 and don't have a lot of life experience , and nobody would blame you for that of course, but logic is logic and 2 plus 2 still makes for even at 15, right ?
If he does not ACT much interested, then he is not MUCH interested. As simple as that. Talk is cheap , you may be flattered that he sounds a bit territorial, , but... does he actually drag his a.. regularly to come and see you ? does he plan dates and activities with you ? No ? then, draw your own conclusions.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (10 July 2016):
 He asked for oral after only hanging out three times?! He doesn't want to date you, OP; he wants sex and that's it. You shouldn't really have sex at your age anyway, but well done for being strong enough to say no :)
I really think you should lessen your contact with this guy and not go out alone with him; he's not boyfriend material yet, just a hormonal boy who doesn't actually want a proper relationship, but access to sex.
Please give up with this guy, OP.
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