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writes:hi all, im so confused at the moment. ive been with my bf for 6 months now but were both really busy so dont get to spend much time together. he is busier than me generally so often when we make plans sometimes they never happen. I end up getting quite upset and feel like hes totally not bothered about me.He came round tonight for example and stayed an hour before rushing off.... but then he was talking about nxt week and im off work so he said why dont i go for a spa day at his gym and then he will come down after work and join me and we can have a meal there. This just confuses me as at times i feel like hes not interested but then he says nice things.Has anyone else been in a similar situation? i dont want to keep nagging him about seeing him but at the same time i do think he can make more of a general effort to see me Reply to this Question
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reader, lostlove1  +, writes (17 August 2010):
I was in a similar situation too. He always had something going on and it made my schedule seem like I never did anything but wait around for him to be with him. I realized that you have to accept it, if you love him then hes not doing anything wrong. If he goes to the gym or does anything other than work, ask to join him and spend that time together. Just tell him you feel that you two should spend more time together because you don't want to become distant!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): I am in the same situation. It causes so much stress and sadness for me. If you bring it up they get really upset and it causes a fight. Its really depressing to be honest. If he works a lot like my gf does, they will never change. You just have to accept that or move on. The job will always come first, and you will always be bending. Constant give without the take. It wears you down after a while. I actually made a similar question here last week and mostly everyone said to leave her.
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