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*ophie89
writes:Dear Cupid,I am a 19 year old female who has been in a serious relationship for almost 2 years now. Give our age difference (he's 30), he's been one of the most wonderful guys i've ever dated. But starting at the beiginning of this year, I started to question things. Wondering if i'm ready for a commitment or if i want to "act my age" and date different people or just have to option of being by myself. I don't know what brought on these inner thoughts of mine, but they've been haunting me since. I've told him how I felt, however, but i'm still not sure of what I want. Given some background information, I haven't been the most faithful partner (that which he knows of too) yet he is wililng to wait for me and work things out. But agian, i'm not sure if that's what i want. Not sure of much at all. I do have a few guy friends that i've been hanging out with since our current break, which also makes me feel slightly guilty but at the same time i'm having fun. And also, i'm not sure if i'm being very fair about the situation seeing as he is not wanting to go out and meet people and i am. It almost feels like i'm using him. But i'm not sure if i want to break up with him completely. Sometimes i think it would be best though. Any tips/advice would be greatly appreciated on how to handle this situation.Thank yousophia Reply to this Question
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reader, Aeval  +, writes (13 May 2008):
 YOur young, This is the time that you are supposed to be out dating and having loads of fun...I don't think I even remember being 19, it was just a huge blur of parties, dates and friends! ha ha
I was living with my older BF at 19, after we broke up and the hurt went away I had an absolute ball!! I partied with freinds, got my own place, worked hard and dated lots of people. The person i was at 19 is not the person I am now. All the experiances I had when i was younger helped me become who I am today. I have met the man I am going to marry and could not be happier. I have had my time out and about and now am ready to settle down with no regrets. Don't let yourself be tied down to anyone if your not ready.
Go and live your life!! Have fun, Travel see the world. Then worry about setteling down! Your not being fair to this man so my advice is to break up ( you will get over it and so will he) and enjoy yourself.
Best of luck
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reader, meliee +, writes (13 May 2008):
well imm in a bit of the same boat at the moment my boy friend is 24 and im 16 i want to break up with him but i cant coz im scared he will kill himself like he tells me but u do what ur heart is tellin u girl u go and be urself i would
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