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writes:I really do not know what my sexual orientation is. I mean, i thought i was straight, then i thought that i was bi-curious, but im not sure. when im online, and i meet new people, i prefer girls and they have to look attractive. but i date guys. ive never thought about dating a girl, it didnt seem right. but then i read this book called 'Keeping You a Secret' it was about a girl who finds out shes a lesbian, and she has to keep a relationship with this girl tht she fell in love with a secret. it was a good book and it got me thinking again. i thought tht it would be cool to have a girlfriend, but i like boyfriends, too. so im thinking im on the verge of becoming bi. im not sure. i wouldnt mind dating a guy or girl. its just if i am bi, im afraid of what others will think of me, i mean coming out will be difficult i think, and im not sure how to find others who are bi if i am. help me please!!
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reader, princesscharming09 +, writes (3 November 2008):
 I've recently went throught the same thing you did. I freaked out because I was afraid of what my family and people at my school would think of me. Me and this girl started talking and I fell in love with her. I introduced her as my friend because she was also shy about it, considering I was her first girlfriend. My friends were all cool with it, it's best to admit it to them now then later because they'll be mad that you didn't admitt it. People at my school took it a lot better than I thought. My girlfriend is way prettier than most of the girls they guys have dated and they all asked me for pointers :))
The girls didn't mind it either, actually a lot of them started becoming curios themselves and several have tried talking to me. Guys still want me and now girls do too. It's confusing, but it's more oppertunity to meet someone to fall in love with. Enjoy you're new expierence, just live and let people come to you, don't go looking.
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reader, Time2SmelltheRoses +, writes (28 October 2008):
There is nothing wrong with being bi! Several of my friends are and they mean the world to me. During your teenage years you will experience lots of emotions of what turns you on- and that's perfectly ok! Now's an okay time to "experiment" with who you really are. The truth is that the people who can't accept you and your sexual orientation aren't meant to be a part of your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2008): Don't worry huni
you are young.. i went through this phase too wondering "am I bisexual.. am i straight/confused etc" until I was 19
now I know I am totally straight..I am 20 now.. I just think give yourself another year and if you still feel the same way and fancy men and women then maybe you are bi..theres nothing wrong with this either :)-no matter what anyone else says!!
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reader, hazelbanana +, writes (27 October 2008):
 if you wouldn't mind having a GF and you find yourself looking at girls you have a huge possibility to be bi. Ultimately, no one can tell you for yourself. You make that decision on yes, i am bi or no, i am straight. your body gives you clues. act on them!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): Okay. You are 13-15, this puts in you in high school. Being gay or queer in high school is not the easiest thing in the world, but it is getting easier. Your generation, more than any before it, is accepting of homosexual relationships - a lot of your peers could care less what your sexual orientation is.
The difficult thing about being gay in high school is that you will be "outed" pretty quickly as rumors travel very quickly. I wouldn't worry about outing yourself until you find yourself in a situation where there is a particular girl that you genuinely want to date. Then by all means ask her out, just be prepared to be labeled by others as bi or a lesbian.
Or you can do what was so popular for my generation - stay closeted through high school and then just start dating in college where the social structure is very different and nobody really cares.
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