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writes:I have always been attracted to guys and i always had relationships with guys. Sometimes I used to think if girls were cute or not but i thought thats normal everyone does that. But lately especially since ive been at college (I'm 18), I have fantasies about girls and this one in particular i met. i dont think she is into girls but who knows, ive been having sexual feelings towards girls lately and im really confused, i think it may be my curiosity but i dont know what to do and i cant tell my friends..theyd be so surprised, any help or advice on what i can do?? Reply to this Question
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (20 September 2009):
 Exploring your sexuality is not unusual for anyone. The issue is what are your limits? Are you attracted to women sexually or is it just a fantasy that you're thinking of and a bit curios about.
That can be an issue for you, so whatever you decide, you should be certain of it, and, be sure that you can handle yourself one way or the other if in fact you find you're attracted to men and women and actually act on those desires.
I can only say that experimentation is only as good as the level of trust you can repose in any sex partner. So even if you are curios, if you decide to go ahead with this, be sure you can trust whoever it is that you're having your first or any subsequent experiences with.
The only reason why I say this is that you're worried about the effect it might have on your friends. You need to be personally confident in any choices that you make in your life, and though it may mean nothing to your peers, it does mean something to you.
You could check out various gay and lesbian forums, and search out bi-curios websites, but be sure that you find safe sites to go to.
The other thing is you can check with any local support groups on our campus and see what its about.
Same sex relationships are similar to but different from heterosexual relationships, and there's a different kind of balance working than male-female relations. Its not too different but there are obvious differences.
Whatever you do, please think ahead and make sure that this is the sort of thing you want to try.
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