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writes:my and my boyfriend just broke up and i really want him back but he wont give me a chance....i am completely in love wit him and i just cant let him go. shortly after we broke up he kissed me but after that he started to hate me and i have no idea why. what should i do i dont want to have to live without him. hes the only reason why tomorrows worth living.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2009): Hey I have the key that's gonna help you. Boy have I got it!! I was in exactly the same situation. I am gay but I'm sure the situation is the same. I was madly in love with a bloke and he split up with me 2 weeks before he went on holiday. I was depressed, took time off work and was gettin deeper into depression. I begged and pleaded telling him I loved him but it was driving him further away!He went on holiday for 3 weeks and i had no choice but to be without him. It was the best thing that could have happened! We (Well He) decided we should be friends, I wanted to be friends cos any chance to get him back etc. well he got back from holiday and we went on a night out.I knew he was expecting me to be all needy and begging -Again! No way, I played it cool, I flirted with blokes and just said to myself forget about trying to get him back and just have fun. We had a great night and when I got home he rang me saying he'd had a lot of fun and I knew he was wanting to get back together! The next day he said "why did we break up?". He wanted to get back together.And okay the 3 weeks I knew he'd be away I made myself get over him and I am over him. I don't want him back now but I hope he feels at least half of the pain he put me through!!The moral is if you want him back don't let him know, act aloof, like you don't care. I swear he'll be begging to have you back! That's the trick!!I don't want my bloke now cos I've realized there will be someone better out there for me who'l treat me like I deserve. You're man might not deserve you but if you still want him act like you don't. It will work, i promise.Best of luck!!!!
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (20 September 2009):
 Both of you are young and he may think that you're being possessive of him. But the real question is why he hates you, as you put it.
Hate seems like a very harsh word. Maybe he's just trying to avoid you so he can move on.
But you have to think of it this way, and I know its painful for you -- you have to move on too. There are plenty of tomorrows worth living, especially at your age. You have I hope a very long and prosperous future ahead of you.
There are plenty of other guys out there and I'm sure there's one out there for you that will be happy to have you as your girlfriend, and make sure that those tomorrows are good and worth living.
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