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writes:I told my brother that I'm in love with him 5 months ago. and that I wanted to make love with him. he get very angry and didn't even want to see me again. and we had no communication at all, till yesterday.he came in my room and we were talking. and than he kissed me and when I stopped him he asked why I didn't want to make love with him any more. I found it very hard to answer his question. I still want to sleep with him but I don't know I shall do this or not. yesterday we were sleeping together. he said he missed me. and then he hugged me and touched my penis and i quickly got an erection. and when he noticed that he got up and went to his room.I don't know what to do. he's straight. I'm gay. he get very angry when he found out it 7 years ago. he beat me and my bf because we were kissing in my room. my brother is about 5 years older than me. now he wants to sleep with me. I don't know what to do. need your help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2010): Hi there. I've taken this question very seriously and from past experience i know exactly how you feel. This is what i would do.
1. Talk to him. Tell him exactly how your feeling, and your intentions that you wish from him.
2. Take it slow. Take the time to listen to what he has to say about this, and be understanding.
3. Dont rush in to anything sexual, this could be awkward at family occasions such as birthdays or christmas.
4. Keep it a SECRET. No one else needs to know at this stage of the relationship. If things really do develop in to love then you can pluck up the courage together to tell your family members.
5. DONT let him lead you on! Be in control of this situation, remember you dont always have to say yes! You can do what you want to, you dont have to obey him.
And 6. Believe in yourself. Be confident, upfront and make suer you tell him exactly how you feel.
Dont listen to the haters out there, as you said yourself, love cannot be sinful. Good luck! and let me know how it works out! Comment on this question and we can chat about it if you need more advice!
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (23 September 2010):
 hmmm i suspect a troll but in case i am wrong, just dont go there. sex with a close relative will always mess your head up and isn't even legal for the reason that babys turn out inbred from these situations, while that is not an issue here i would advise against having sex with your brother as it WILL mess your head up. find a man you are not related to and go from there...
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reader, dima_dim +, writes (23 September 2010):
dima_dim is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbut I love him. love can never be sinful!
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reader, SillyB  +, writes (22 September 2010):
 Well I'm sorry to tell you this, but you do have some psychiatric problems. This is not normal. Please go talk to a therapist. Incest is a terrible route to take, it is not condusive to normal healthy family life. You are very unhealthy to be thinking like this. Leave your brother alone, let him lead a normal and healthy life. No one deserves sexual attention from a family member.
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reader, xX_Kitty_Xx +, writes (22 September 2010):
You may have feelings for your brother but what youve got to understand is that hes being unfair tempting you into doing something you will regret. Dont have sex with him as this would be incest and you will most likely regret it. So please do not do this as you will regret it and it seems like he is testing you.
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reader, dyna_tow  +, writes (22 September 2010):
Do not sleep with your brother. I have a feeling from what you've said that he wouldn't allow it anyway. I think your brother is confused about his sexuality as most men get at some point, and is using you to experiment. This is incredibly unfair to you. Especially as your brother seems to be a homophobe.
I also think you should try to get over any feelings you have towards your brother, ask yourself if you could love someone who would beat you up for kissing a guy. I'm not even going to approach the whole issue of him being your brother but we both know that's not a good thing. Move on and next time something like this happens, tell your brother no. That you made a mistake and he should experiment elsewhere.
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