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writes:I am very concerned about my sister, Margaret. She is addicted to prescription pills which she has been on for 20 years, unknowingly she didnt realise the pills were addictive. My concern is her partner and his mother. I dont have a good feeling about either of them and I think they might have ulterior motives for being with my sister... ie her property (£150,000)My reason for this is you see I have known Mark's (my sister's partner's) mother for around 10 years and we used to be very friendly, she is in her 60's but VERY outgoing and gargarious in nature, through Janet (Mark's mum) my sister met Mark, he was in the army at the time but is out completly now. I got the immpression that Mark didnt like me being friendly with his mum and with time he did his best to split us up as friends, this happened and now we hardly ever talk. I know Janet to be a very devious, manipulating and two faced person now and through time, have found out a few home truths about her, her own mother gave her control of her savings and Janet spent the lot £25,000!!! Her mum eventually found out and there was one big family row. Mark didnt really get on with his mum in the past (hence his reason to join the forces), but now they are virtually inseperable, always on the phone etc. I am worried that Mark and Janet are decieving my sister to get their hands on her money (via property). I know Mark isn't keen when Margaret IS in our company (we don't really get as much time to see her as often as we'd like as we live a good distance away from her and cannot just pop in to visit as often as we'd like.) Please help, am I just being a bit silly or should I trust my instincts about Mark and his mum, that they are befreinding my sister for her money. My sister is now on reduced dose from her prescription pills as well as anti depressants and is now being encouraged BY MARK to see a shrink and consider Prozac!! This just isn't the sister I know. What is happening?? Do I have cause for concern??? please help.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (12 March 2010):
 If your sister isn't married to this man then he has no claim or entitlement to her money or property. The common law husband/wife status no longer exists in England so it wouldn't matter if he stayed with her for 50 years, he still wouldn't be entitled.
That said, if your sister has left a will in his favour then he will get the lot. If you feel your sister is mentally ill and cannot make lucid decisions for herself, you could ask her if she would like you to have 'power of attourney' over her estate. That means that you have legal power to carry out her wishes if she cannot do it herself.
You will have to handle things very carefully to avoid looking like the antagonist. I would make an effort to spend more time with her if you can, talk to her about how she sees things and what she would like to do about her home in the future. Tell her your fears and offer her support to protect her decision. A legally binding will is the only way to ensure her wishes are carried out.
I wouldn't speak to her partner or his mother about this but if your sister expresses that she wants her partner to benefit and has written this into a will, then there is little you can do.
If your sister dies intestate (without a will) then legally any remaining monies will be passed to her closest next of kin... her blood relatives.
Hopefully all this is far into the future, you have a lot of time to bring your sister closer to you, help her get off medication and be happier with her life. When she is well, then she can really decide what she wants to do.
Good Luck xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2010): I think you should have a frank disussion with your sister about ALL of your concerns. First and foremost her addiction to pills. It will kill her.
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