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writes:I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years, were both 19. we had a rocky relationship, we had fun and commitment, after she lied to me (not cheating), we did fight a lot. The last time i saw her (5 days after break up) she told me she doesn't love me anymore and doesn't know when she fell out of love, she feels tied down and just wants to be single, I understood that we would have been great and she wouldn't feel that way if we didn't fight constantly, but after the meeting it ended with us laughing and joking, then got awkward and then she reusured me for me not to get mixed feeling and she justs wants to be friends.I keep replaying what happened that day constantly trying to find some clue that would give me hope, but I don't know what to do now. Every now and then she comments on my facebook status (her opinion) like a friend, but I donno, should I delete her from my facebook? would it ruin the chances of me ever getting back with her or not?one more piece of information: It was our first serious relationship for the both of us and we also lost it together. We have many memories and intense love in the past, just lately, she changed a bit after going to college. and when we broke up i told her i hated her and she begun to cry a bit (i hope that helps) but i don't, we talked.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 January 2011):
 She has made it clear to you that somewere along the line she fell out of love with you, this can happen to people and we have no control over it. At least she was honest with you and told you this. Dont look in to that day and look for clues to see if there is more in it because i really dont think there is. What you need to do now is to get over her. Am sure she still cares a great deal about you and she wants to be friends but if you are not over her a friendship can be really hard. You need to take some time out and ask yourself if you could handle having her in your life as just a friend and a friend only. You were each others first love and you both lost your virginity to each other which is a major thing and i think you probably will always care for each other some way or another. But for now just let her go and move on.
As for deleting her from facebook well if you feel that you cant handle just being friends at the moment and you need some time then tell her that straight out and then you can delete her but the decision is yours.
Goodluck.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (15 January 2011):
She has made it clear to you that somewere along the line she fell out of love with you, this can happen to people and we have no control over it. At least she was honest with you and told you this. Dont look in to that day and look for clues to see if there is more in it because i really dont think there is. What you need to do now is to get over her. Am sure she still cares a great deal about you and she wants to be friends but if you are not over her a friendship can be really hard. You need to take some time out and ask yourself if you could handle having her in your life as just a friend and a friend only. You were each others first love and you both lost your virginity to each other which is a major thing and i think you probably will always care for each other some way or another. But for now just let her go and move on.
As for deleting her from facebook well if you feel that y
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female
reader, aunt honesty +, writes (15 January 2011):
She has made it clear to you that somewere along the line she fell out of love with you, this can happen to people and we have no control over it. At least she was honest with you and told you this. Dont look in to that day and look for clues to see if there is more in it because i really dont think there is. What you need to do now is to get over her. Am sure she still cares a great deal about you and she wants to be friends but if you are not over her a friendship can be really hard. You need to take some time out and ask yourself if you could handle having her in your life as just a friend and a friend only. You were each others first love and you both lost your virginity to each other which is a major thing and i think you probably will always care for each other some way or another. But for now just let her go and move on.
As for deleting her from facebook well if you feel that y
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reader, CJH  +, writes (15 January 2011):
 Stop clinging to the idea its going to happen again. I cant tell you for sure that it wont but I do know that hanging around wasting time waiting for it will do nothing but hurt you.Very few people find "the one" straight away and you need to understand that and realise that life holds greater challenges and possibly greater love for you. None of thats going to happen if you allow yourself to live in the past. Look forwards rather than backwards.Once you learn how to let go, you soon realise that its the right thing to do. The girl has clearly ended this and intends to keep it that way so really, you have no choice.Maybe you will always love her in a way and I`m sure, as she was your "first" you will always have fond memories but, thats where it should end.Youve learned a lot about yourself from her but perhaps its time to move on to the next chapter of your life.good luck.
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