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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (15 January 2011):
 It depends, have you ever been in a LDR? It's kinda like a LDR. You have to deal with them being gone all the time, having to leave at a moment's notice to travel all over the US for training, at times you won't be able to contact them because they'll be training..Depending on his rank, you won't be able to live with him unless you two were to get married. For now, he lives in the single housing on base. How far is the base from where you live? At the most he would be able to see you on weekends, maybe not every weekend, and whenever he gets leave.
To understand more about the Marines, you can ask your boyfriend. Although he may not want to get off of work and then go talk about it with his girlfriend. It's best to go and visit him on base..make some friends with the wives, or girlfriends of his fellow comrades. They can fill you on how the Marines work. Like, thewalkingdude also said there are websites for army girlfriends that offer support.
Now, I will say this. It is NOT EASY being a military girlfriend/wife. Not every girl is cut out for that lifestyle. Hence the cheating stereotype that military wives are associated with. You have to deal with deployments, the possibility of him getting transferred to another base, the fact that you can't have a normal relationship, the loneliness, his exhaustion, and mood. Most women have a hard time with the deployment alone..the before and after.
Relationships in general require work and maintenance, military relationships are double the work. I suggest testing the waters and seeing how it goes for about a month. For even a moment, if you feel like this isn't for you then back out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2011): I think you will do fine! There is married couples with children, and can still be with their husband. Will you be hurt when hes away? Yes! But, people do it all the time. I have friends and family that are married to someone in the military! They are on webcam, and write letters to eachother everyday, its just like being a normal couple! and trust me, whenever ya'll see eachother again, sparks will fly! I think its the most healthiest relationship, ya'll never get "tired" of eachother, or anything! Everything always stays fresh!
About his responsabilities, that could be a tough one. Remember this is HIS life, and HIS choices, don't bash him on his decision to be in the military! You could go to the website, and they show you tours around the marines, and tell you the responsabilities..to make you feel comfortable. But you have to come to realize....that being in the military there is a chance of something negative! You can't deny it, or cover it up! But be thankful that you have a boyfriend who cares so much for this country! If you truely love and like eachother, then don't worry about long distance! I promise...everything will work out!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2011): Have you spoken to your boyfriend about your worries etc...?
There are many websites for army wives/girlfriends that can give you support and advice.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 January 2011):
 Well first off get yourself well educated on the matter. Research well in to the marines and see what the responibilties will be of your boyfriends. Also tell him how you feel and your concerns for him.
As for the distance is there is any. If you love someone then you will work hard to try and make it work out with them. Long distance can be hard but rewarding once it is over.
Talk to your boyfriend about it and ask him how he feels taking on something like this. Ask him what he is wanting to gain out of joining the marines and try and support him the best you can.
Am sorry that i cant give you anymore than that. All the best in the future.
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