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writes:hello. i am a male, 18, and have recently decided that the time has come to tell my family that i am gay, but i have no idea how i should tell them and am worried that i will just run off when i am about to.also, should the truth have come out earlier - will it be unexpected to tell at my age???any advice, i am REALLY worried? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2009): I came out to my best friend and I thought he'd hate me for life if I told him just kus he's a total homophobe.....I told him that I'm bi and I don't want to lie to him about it and he took it waaaaaaaay better than I'd expected.
Point being your mom might actually be quite supportive of you even if you think she's not. If you've always been attracted to males when you were younger then I'm pretty sure your mom have seen this side of you before and might just be waiting for you to come out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2009): It will be a little strange but a lot of people usually come out later like you.Your mom will still love you shes your mom,shes been there from the start,and me and my mom have a bond even though is faded away sence child hood she'd still respect my desisions I make,even if it was one such as this.Remember that for familys especially with a strong religous foundation It will be harder for them to come around,but they will over time.That is in most cases,you wont know what there feeling are until you tell them.If it makes you feel more comefortable tell either your mom or dad,the one that seems more open minded first,than an hour later you can tell the other one together.In the end you'll have to tell them and soon everyone els.
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reader, loving arms +, writes (2 March 2009):
Only you know your family so only you can take a guess at what will happpen. A young guy i knew told his parents via a letter. He gave it to his mum then went to his bedroom and waited for the response. His parents said they had no idea that he was gay, but, they were very worried about him for a long time as he seemed very depressed with no friends and little motiavtion. His coming out was the best thing ever as he seemed to shine once he knew he had his parents and grand parents support. He had held this 'secret' in for 3 years and so everything changed for the better. Best of luck mate xx
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reader, MochaLady7  +, writes (1 March 2009):
Coming out is a major decision. Talk to the person/parent you trust the most first. You will be surprised. Most likely they already know and they are just waiting for you to admit it.
If they do run away, then you have the weight lifted off of your shoulders. You were honest with yourself and to them. And that's all you can do.
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (28 February 2009):
 My friend came out at 16, so its not that different. He just said to his mum ' I'm gay, I hope you're not upset with me' she wasn't disappointed at all, she's very supportive! Best thing to do is be confident about it and give them time to adjust. X
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