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30-35,
*az3r
writes:First let me start off describing my relationship with this guy, Samuel. I am head over heels for this kid and he knows it. We dated a while back, but he was having family troubles and we decided he needed to work things out. Recently we have been hanging out a lot, and it's like we're together again. We kiss, hold hands, have sex, watch movies and bake cookies and we tell each other we love each other. I do love him. But I'm starting to doubt if he loves me. We arent together, even though we do couple things. He says he doesn't want to take me back because he doesn't want to be hurt again. (the past two boyfriends i've had, ended up leaving me after I cheated with Samuel. But I didn't get with him after they and I broke up, because I was scared. So I guess I inadvertantly hurt him. But I apologize constantly.) anyway he says we're exclusive regardless of whether there are titles or not. Lately he's been deressed. His parents split up and he and his mom are staying with grandma. He got suspended from school and just sleeps his life away. The last time I saw him was last weekend. He's been kind of ignoring me lately, and he blames it on the fact that "he's not himself, he's hurting" but he won't tell me why. He won't answer my calls or texts or messages. I tried giving him space but I still get ignored when I try to talk to him. I miss him and I'm worried about him. I love him. Why is he being like this? Is it because I wanted more out of our "friends with benefits" situation? Is it because he wanted sex? Is he just depressed? I want to help him so things can be like they were. I want him to be happy. Help?
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reader, Sydnee  +, writes (8 February 2010):
Dear Taz3ryou are either together, or not in my opinion it sounds like he is using you for what he wants because he knows he can, but doesnt want to commit himselftell him unless you are in a relationship officially there will be no more sex etc his true feelings should come out then at the moment he will be in a low place and it could be that he doesnt want to talk to anybodyjust be there for him as a friend if he is mad because he isnt getting sex then he isnt worth it anywayGood Luck Sydnee x
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