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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:So I Went Out With my boyfriend for 6 months and my mom's friends heard that he was a gangster.. but hes not. he just hangs out with some of them so she told me to break up with him but instead I just told her I did. but I didnt so i went behind her back.. she found out and everything got worse.. and she thought I was picking him over my family so i really did break up with him and then I tried getting over him and i coudnt so i tried being friends with benefits with him and its not working because my mom told me that shes never going to approve of him and she thinks if i even be friends with him then im picking him over her.My relationship with my mom has been really bad and we dont get along but i told her it didnt matter, im still going to be friends with him so she told me i have to try to get over him.. So what i need help on now.. Is I love him a lot, he makes me happy but since my mom is never going to approve.. I guess its never going to work.. what do I tell my ex? becuase we have been just friends with benefits. Should i tell him its never going to work and let him go or tell him i need to work things out with my mom first then me and him can work things out? its hard and we've both tried getting over each other and it doesnt work. my moms never going to like him and she really really doesnt like him. if i tell him cant be friends with benefits any more then i feel like I'm hurting him again becuase we keep going back and forth.. but we're not going to have a real relationship without my mom not liking him. my friends say he should understand and other people say my moms wrong.it makes me mad someone told me he was really a gangster. i dont know what to believe becauseive went to a physic 2 times already and she said that me and him are ment to be we have something strong. that its just going to take time. i dont know what to do.
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reader, gisbornes-cullen-girl  +, writes (8 February 2010):
i am sorry but does it matter if he is a "ganster" if you want to be with him tell your mum the truth say how you feel sit her down and talk. tell her if it isnt the right thing for you then you will learn from your mistakes but for now you need to live your life and the only way you can see your self moving forward is if you get with him and give him another try because you know him and trust him.
explain how you feel i am sure she will understand as long as you are truth full
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