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writes:so i recently began a new job at a grocery store. I have became friends with some people that i work with which is natural. I have been working here for about a month and i discovered my friend "michelle" is bi. She recently told me that "you can't hide your true feelings about me" and laughed and said just kidding! and she's ben awful flirty with me and never leaves my side. I am straight and not in the least bit bi-curious. I like our friendship and working with her but that is it. Does she like me and what should i do about it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2009): Shes telling you she would if your curious. Just tell her that your fine with her sexual preferences but your tree doesn't lean that way.
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (8 May 2009):
 Just because she's slightly flirty with you doesn't mean she fancies you! Its like if a guy said that you probably wouldn't think anything of it, you would just pass it off as a man thing! So just ignore any comments that she makes of this nature, and don't assume she fancies you just because she is having a joke with you and is a lesbian/bi. If she said 'I fancy you' then fair enough, then is the time to tell her that although you value her friendship you don't feel the same way. If she doesn't say anything like that then don't assume she likes you, its very big headed!
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reader, niki20 +, writes (8 May 2009):
 it sounds like she likes you. try taljing w/ her tell her you love your friendship and that your not bi or bicurious, the best way to deal w/ it is to talk w/ her. say it in your own words and be nice about it, you can bring up that shes making those comments and that you feel akward when she makes the comments. tell her something like shes a great friend........good luck dear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2009): Yea, she likes you and she's just flirting; testing the waters. She probably thinking that she discovered her bisexuality and that you might too but it doesn't look like she's hung up on it or waiting out for it.
Just chill. Don't fret over it. She won't cross the line if you don't give her a reason to. You can be unfront about it if you guys usually have such frank discussions. Otherwise just think of her as a friend and if she crosses the line physically in the future like grabbing your bum after a few drinks in a bar, make it clear.
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reader, Ms.Helper +, writes (8 May 2009):
 I have a lesbian friend & nearly 2 & a half years ago she confessed to liking me. I told her I like our friendship as it is & I'm not at all interested in dating or flirting. As soon as I told her she apologised for making me feel uncomfortable & said she understands she needs to calm down with being clingy & flirting. Even when I see her now she kisses my cheek & hugs me, but I know she knows I'm not interested & so I no longer feel threatened.
You have to tell her you feel uncomfortable before it's too late & she makes a move on you. Your friendship is at risk because of how she is making you feel & how she is acting. If she's worth keeping as a friend she'll listen to you & understand that you are straight & not interested in her other than a friend.
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