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anonymous
writes:I'm 18 and fairly clueless when it comes to the physical side of a relationship but I cum simply by kissing my boyfriend. Is this normal? After a full on session the crotch of my pants is always damp and it always makes me paranoid because I don't know if this happens to a lot of girls. Surely girls only cum during sex or when a guy is down there trying to make you cum??
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2010): Thanks for your help guys,and yes anon there would have been times when my pubic area would have been pressing against his so i guess that would explain it! It makes me self conscious though because I'm afraid he'll notice..I don't know why because I suppose it's a compliment to him..? we can simply share a few kisses while out clubbing and i come home wet..is that normal!? and while we are on the topic he is more experienced than me with relationships and so has more idea what he's doing when it comes to the physical stuff where as I'm pretty self conscious and afraid of doing something wrong. will this wear off as we get to know each other better or is it just a case of eveyone feels that way starting out and you just have to push past it or when I'm ready to take it further will I know what to do?Sorry this is a bit muddled I find it hard to write what I want to ask especially when there's so much,someone should write a book on this stuff!!Hope you can make sense out of it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2010): Yes, it's not clear what you mean by "cum".
Many women can get very wet and lubricated when they are stimulated by kissing, fondling, hugging, etc. That is rather common.
A few women are able to reach climax - orgasm - primarily from kissing, breast stimulation, etc. This is a bit unusual, but not unknown.
When you are in a "full-on session", you might be stimulating yourself by pressing or rubbing your pubic area against him (his hip or thigh), perhaps without really being aware of it. Many, perhaps most, women can bring themselves to orgasm by doing this. It's part of what is sometimes called "heavy petting" or "outercourse", and is sometimes used as an alternative to penetrative sex by couples who want to avoid intercourse.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (20 August 2010):
 That is not "cum" - that is just the natural lubrication of the vagina when you are aroused. So basically whenever you get turned on, you get "wet" down there. It is not "cum" - it is just a lubricant which enables the penis to enter the vagina easier.
Generally an "orgasm" only happens when the clitoris and/or the vagina is stimulated, this can be with a hand, penis, sex toy etc.... You can definitely tell when you have had an orgasm as it will feel like nothing you have ever felt before!
And one final thing - not all girls actually "cum". Most women can all achieve an orgasm but nothing necassarily comes out of the vagina following an orgasm - some women can "squirt" (where they slightly force the ejaculate liquid out of them and it squirts out of the vagina) but not all women can do this or want to do this. So dont get confused between male "cum" and a female orgasm - they are very different things and generally women dont have "cum" in the same way men do. Women get "wet" and then will produce even more fluid when they orgasm, but this does not neccesarily always come out of them unless they squirt. Whereas for a man, in most cases an orgasm always involves ejaculation where semen will come out of his penis ("cum").
I hope this helps and good luck!
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