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writes:hey,my problem is quite cliche really. Basically, I have a boyfriend, I'm seventeen, he's eighteen, we have been together for 6 months. We have a laugh together, and I do enjoy spending time with him but after 6 months of trying to convince myself for falling for him, I'm not. I don't miss him when hes not here and he annoys me quite a lot and he's just, not what I thought a boyfriend would be, (he's my first ever serious relationship.) Thing is, I could never end things with him. He doesn't like my best friend, they don't really get on too well and lately, I'm getting on VERY well with his best friend.My best friend and his best friend used to date and I think he still likes her because she ended it very abruptly and I'm scared that because me and her are so alike, he's talking to me more because it's a bit like talking to her if you understand me.However, I think I'm starting to like him. I know I shouldnt but he's so easy to get on with. I feel like a terrible friend and a terrible girlfriend. I have nobody to talk about this either because it involves the 3 people I trust the most.Please help me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2007): hey, its me who posted the problem,
i know why she ended the relationship, i just didnt want to go through it all, and basically she just met someone else.
my best friend doesnt like my boyfriend either so theres no way they would get on,
i really appreciate your advice, its hard when you dont know the ins and outs of the situation :)
thankyou for your time and effort guys.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2007): Why prolong the agony? You know where it is going, nowhere, just put a stop to it now. You shouldnt worry about hurting him, because he will feel more hurt if he thought that you were going out with him out of pity and not love. Tell it to him straight and dont hold back on the words. Then you will be free to make your choices again in the future. As for the friend of his, if he asks you out and you are freee then go, but not until you are free.
take care
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reader, Heartly  +, writes (4 December 2007):
 First of all you need to break it off with your boyfriend because if you dont love him then neither of you will ever be happy with each other !Why continue something that is not what YOU want ? Second I think you should talk to your girlfriend and ask her how she feels about your EX or soon to be EX and see if she likes him and if she thinks he likes her ? If so tell them both that you are ok with that !( they maybe having the same worries you are ) And if the two of them hit it off then you and the other guy may get a chance to see how the two of you work out ! you have to be honest with yourself and your friends but do it CAREFULY! so you dont hurt anyone . But dont be miserable and stay in a relation ship that you dont want !
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reader, ShyGuy78 +, writes (4 December 2007):
 Ask yourself this- is it worth losing your bf and your best friend for your bf's best friend?Your best friend ended her relationship abruptly meaning she dumped your bf's best friend. So its only natural that your bf wouldn't be friendly with her. She dumped his best friend for crying out loud!You are young and restless and seem to be saturated with your current bf. You don't seem to be ready for a serious relationship.If you are not comfortable with your current then go ahead and end the relationship but seek out a new bf and don't fall into the trap of the cliche'd triangle! If you do you will end up hurting everyone.ps: It would help if you could figure out as to why your best friend dumped her guy abruptly in the first place.
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