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*pendy
writes:What kind of a person does this? this guy is seriously sick!!? I loved my ex bf so much.. I thought we were in love.. He was so sweet.. Told me he loved me everyday.. He never gave my a reason to doubt him.Everything was great. We had great chemistry.. We spent good times together..he told me he's never felt like that about anyone before.Then he dumped me saying he doesn't want a relationship anymore. I found out he was sleeping with 2 girls behind my back. 1 one night stand the other girl he slept with her 3times. Wtf!He didn't know I found out about his cheating so I asked if he's ever cheated on me he says he has never cheated.. I asked if he's sure he said he swears on his dads grave. (His father died 3years ago)What kind of a sick person does that? The other girl told him I know then he admitted it all. I'm so hurt and angry!!:(I was going through his stuff a few weeks back cos I felt he was cheating and I saw his stupid passport expired in 2008.. I didn't tell him what I found.. Should I call immigration on him?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (11 February 2012):
 Leave him to Karma. Get tested for STD's. Be happy you got rid of the loser, because now you are free to meet a real man.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (11 February 2012):
 By the way, I didn't mean to sound unsympathetic to your plight. I was just answering your question.
You've been wronged so you're understanably hurt and angry and no one can blame you for being tempted to report him. I think most of us would be. I just don't think you should follow through.
If it gives you any comfort, we get posts all the time from people who have cheated on an ex and even years later are plagued by guilt and shame. Maybe he'll be one of them, even if you aren't around to see it. In fact better if you aren't since he won't be able to purge any of it with you.
Be thankful that you discovered this now instead of later when you'd married, moved in together and had kids. Now you're stronger and wiser for this experience and it will be that much harder for someone to fool you the next time.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 February 2012):
 If he's going back permanently in May, that takes the wind off the sails of your revenge . In fact, if you manage to get him deported , ... you may actually be doing him a favour and saving him the ticket fare for going home :)
The best revenge is living well and being happy. What do you care ?, after May he's gone, out, finished, vanished from your physical space,- make sure he vanishes from your mental space too, and you'll be allright.
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reader, Ciar +, writes (11 February 2012):
No, I do not think you should report him, for the reasons Miamine gave and that the kind of person who does that will only attract others of that ilk. Just as you cannot guarantee how, when or even if, immigration will handle this, you also cannot guarantee you won't one day hurt someone yourself, however unintentional, and you wouldn't want them to use a government agency to punish you.
Besides, taxpayer money and government services can be put to better use than settling personal scores.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (11 February 2012):
 If it's a British Passport it doesn't matter if it's expired or if he doesn't have one. UK and European Citizens don't need a passport to stay in the country. If it's a visa, that's a different matter... but unless you know the law, he might still have the right to stay, or he may have other papers tucked away.
He's cheated, you want revenge... but revenge like that will hurt you in the long term. There is no guarantee that immigration will do anything. And there is no guarantee that he might end up staying or get the right to come back and come and deal with you in an unpleasant way. The immigration aren't priests, they can easily tell him that it was you that called them. Much better to try to forget and move on.
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reader, Spendy +, writes (11 February 2012):
Spendy is verified as being by the original poster of the question Sorry.. I meant his student visa expired in 2008.. He told me he's going to his Country permanently in May.
Should I just let karma deal with him?xx
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reader, person12345  +, writes (10 February 2012):
 What would immigration do...? If he's a citizen having an expired passport shouldn't be a problem.
The guy is scum, but if you seek revenge it will just make you seem childish. The best way to get revenge is to go out and have a great life without him. Show him you don't need him and that your life is so much better without him in it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2012): His passport or his visa? If he is in the country legally, it doesn't matter if his passport is expired.
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