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writes:Hi, is there anybody out there that as cheated on their husbands/wifes, left their husbands/wifes and moved in with the person they were cheating on them with? How long did your relationship last and did you end up regretting it?The reason I ask is because my husband as done it to me...I was devastated and im slowly rebuilding my life. I do not want him back at all, we have a 11 month old little boy and the woman he is with is very manipulative and is influencing him seeing my son, she is not a very nice person and to be honest the best thing for my son would be if he wasn't with her, as at the moment he only see's him 2 hours a week, I know he would like to see him more but every time he makes plans with me, for example he said last week he would like to see him again at the beginning of this week (he isn't due to see him again til fri) and I said yes thats fine because I want my son to have a relationship with his dad and i would never stop contact but he went back to her and I later get a message telling me he can no longer see him when he was quite happy to when he had dropped him back home and he as done this a few times. I am worried about the impact this will have on our son once he is a little older, he is too young to know at the min but I need to set some boundries but I know him and his isn't him and he would be better off with her and my son would have his daddy back.Any advice appreciated
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2011): No, I've never cheated on anyone in ANY way. I am 41 and very proud to say that much. I find it repulsive and I won't do that to someone I care for. I have had it done to me. I have seen it done to others. There is no excuse for it. If you are THAT unhappy - then LEAVE. But don't cheat. Period. And no, I have also never seen a relationship work that was created out of cheating (where the cheater leaves the spouse for the new third wheel). I have never seen those relationships ever work out. The spouse always ends up being the one who had the most to offer. Not the new flame who dies out! Some people just get greedy, get stupid, get scared, feel vengeful for something they may not have all the facts on...Whatever the reason, cheating is NOT acceptable. It is a selfish, uncaring thing to do and it can break a person's spirit. And in the end, it is never worth all that gets lost if the person ends up not staying with their new love interest.
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reader, Gherkinsaregrim  +, writes (21 May 2011):
I haven't heard of a relationship which has come about under those circumstances and lasted. Ever.
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reader, ironman777  +, writes (21 May 2011):
Hi - yes I been that man and I not afraid to say that I loved very very deeply the person I left for. There was no love in my LTR and I stuck around for far too long.The relationship I've just finished which led me here was a rollercoaster but one I'm very happy to have had. It's taught me so much with an amazing person, who if she gets her head straight could be a great companion for me the rest of my life.But one thing I'm very hot on is making sure my kids have the smoothest transition, and they are not disadvantaged by this process I forced on them. They are innocent parties to the feelings of us adults and my ex and I have worked very hard to make things work for them even if it does create some friction occasionally. My advice would be to accept that he's gone and start to pull your own life together. Better to be positive and non bitter than let it drag you down. You have a great life ahead of you looking after your boy and he will give you so much love that you'll barely need someone else.
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