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writes:We found out at monday that my girlfriend is 3 weeks pregnant.She wants a abortion how can i change her mind not to do that?
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (24 September 2010):
 You know Flynn 24, I was with you until you started preaching that anti choice drivel in the 3rd paragraph.
I believe that she should definitely consider your opinion OP. It isn't fair for her to make this decision alone. Still, keep in mind that if you love eachother, then you should support her decision, even if you don't like it. You can make another baby when you are both ready. The key word being BOTH. Abortion is one of those things that will haunt her for the rest of her life. I doubt she takes this decision lightly. It is also something that is best done as early as possible.
Support her, be there for her, and when the time is right, you can try to have a child. Planning for it that time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2010): Just because a womans body is really physcially, it doesnt mean she is ready mentally. Contraception fails all the time, it in unfair to assume that people with unwanted pregnancies wernt using anyhting.
I got pregnant a year ago because I wasnt told that antibiotics would effect the pill.
Yes it takes two to create life, but ultimately it is the woman who has to cope with the trails of pregnancy and birth.
For some people it is a courageous choice to choose abortion, they have faced up to the fact that they are not responsible enough to have a child. Remember that the embryo is just that before a certain time, it cannot survive outside the womb, it is not a child or a baby yet.
At three weeks it is literally a collection of cells, its not even formed yet.
Ask your girlfriend if she would be interested in seeing a pregnancy councellor. Assess your options.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2010): Wow. So a father has no rights or say in what happens to a child he is just as much a part of the creation of?
This is what is the matter with the world today. Yes, the woman carries the child to term. And yes, the decision should ultimately come down to her. But the father has just as much right to have his voice heard and his wished factored in.
It is my opinion that abortion should be illegal save for a few exceptions... such as when medically, the pregnancy would threaten the life of the mother or child, or if the child will be born so severely disabled in some way that it's quality of life will be extraordinarily harmed.
I apologise if I have offended anyone here. But I have a very strict view on this subject. I do not like killing in any way except for food or defense, or accident. Not because two people were stupid enough to forgo the use of contraception.
A child should not have to pay for it's parent's mistakes and stupidity. And besides... people are ready for kids by 18, elsewise our bodies would not produce them by that time. It can be done, and has been done successfully.
Flynn 24
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (24 September 2010):
 You cant change her mind. Have your thought this through? You list your age as 18 to 21, I am going to assume she is just as young, whatever decision your girlfriend makes (and sorry, but it is HER decision) is going to affect her for the rest of her life.
Whatever decision she makes is not going to be easy, and you need to accept her decision, and support her through whatever she decides to do.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (24 September 2010):
 That really is not your choice to make. Your girlfriend is the one carrying the child not you and right now she knows that she is not ready for a child. If you want, you can try and assure her that you will be there for her but that is only if you are sure you will but that may not even make her want to keep it.
A child is another life, something that will feel pain or joy depending on you life together with your girlfriend. Are you ready for that step, it seems as though she isn't.
I hope that helps.
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