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Can't understand why my willy just goes limp?

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Question - (20 December 2005) 5 Answers - (Newest, 31 January 2006)
A male , anonymous writes:

I'm 19 years old and have been "fooling around" with girls for a couple years now. The thing is, recently, I was with my girlfriend, and we were really getting into it. I had a super hard erection that was ready to go. She gave me a bit of a blow job, then I went down on her for a few minutes. The problem is, when I was ready to insert my penis, it was limp and I had never ejaculated. She tried sucking it, stroking it, she even masturbated in front of me to try and get it back - nothing worked! And this was only the first time...it has happened a few more times during oral sex: she'll go down on me for awhile, then she'd stop and we'd fool around some more doing various little things, and she would get ready to go down again, and it is limp. It's kind of embarassing, having my penis in a girl's mouth and it won't get hard.

I masturbate regualrly, and have no problem getting or maintaining an erection. Somtimes I can even prolong my climax for over an hour without losing my erection. I will admit that recently it has been taking me a few minutes longer to ejacualte. I don't know if this is connected to the above mentioned problem, but I don't understand.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2006):

Whoever the last person who answered this was, then no, I do not watch porn...why?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2006):

tell me about it! i have the same problem. however i may have a solution, tell me, do you watch porn while you masterbate

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A female reader, Virginiaac +, writes (21 December 2005):

Stop relying on self pleasure and join the real world.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2005):

It sounds like you might have some intimacy issues. If you can stay hard enough to masturbate, but not stay hard with her, see a counselor. Can you masturbate in front of her? Maybe that would give you your emotional intimacy/confidence to try it again another time.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2005):

If you masturbate reguarly then you should stop for a while and see if that helps.

Maybe pleasing yourself is doing you and your partner an injustice.

Wait for her, allow only her to please you. I know it is hard.

You become desencitized when you masturbate a lot and then a woman doesnt feel the same. Maybe this is the problem.

Do you do this to porn? That can play a roll too.

You can then become visual to the fantasy and reality is not such a turn on.

Good luck!

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