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writes:I have a problem. I have a girlfriend been with her just over a year now. I'm not sure if I love her or if I'm emotionally attached. Secondly, there's another girl. She works with me. We both have a sexual attraction towards each other and I know she likes me. I'm sure its not worth losing my gf for this one however I can't stop thinking about this problem and its driving me insane. I don't know what to do. Its been like this for several months now and I thought my feelings for work girl would go but they haven't. Reply to this Question
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reader, Sensible Alice  +, writes (3 March 2014):
 You're in a difficult situation here, because you work with this other girl and can't distance yourself from her. No doubt there is a degree of friendliness and flirting at work and you feel her attraction is mutual. If the option of transfer to a different office or position is there I'd advise you to take it. That way, once this other girl is not so much around you, you will be able to objectify things more clearly.
If that's not an option then I guess what you need to decide is if you are willing to leave your girlfriend to explore a relationship with the girl at work. This is risky, because, what if the sexual attraction is all there is to it and then you find it awkward to be around her at work? Or you realise you really did love your girlfriend and dumped her for an unsatisfying fling?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2014): hay i completely understand your frustration as ive been there before, believe me!What really stood out to me is the fact that you are even questioning hw you feel about your current gf! if you were trully "in love" with her then there would be no doubt about it hunny especially after a year both yu and your gf's feelings should be confirmed by nw.Have you ever thought of weighing the pros and cons of your relationship? what keeps you with her? what makes her more special than anyone else? do you see yourself with her in five years time mutually happy? as long as your answers to these questions are nt superficial then i believe you and your current gf can make it work.Then you must really question why you are attracted to the new girl. is it because your are bored and unsatisfied in your relationship and this new thing comes along flashing her lashes/assests causing you to believe that the grass is greener? perhaps there are things that both you and your girlfriend can do together to make you both happy? if neither of you are willing to compramise and make changes to see eachother happy then perhaps its just not wrth it afterall! best of luck!
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