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30-35,
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writes:I need some help. I've been offered and amazing opportunity to go to New York for a week with family flights and accomodation paid for, and considering I don't earn much money I may never get this chance again so I really want to go. I have figured it out and I can afford to save for spending money.The thing is despite my age I have always had a problem with being away from home. I've only ever been on one proper holiday with my mum to Cornwall and I cried for 2 days straight. I was about 12 at the time mind you. Also I could never spend nights at friends houses because of this and I was 19 before I did that for the first time and I was 20 before I ever went for 3 days away with a friend. I admit I loved it and it didn't bother me one bit but still it was long enough. I have been without my mum for a week before but she went away and I stayed at home. Again I was alright because I was at home and she was in the country.The problem is leaving both my mum and home. A week is a long time for me and this will be the first time I am away from home for this length of time. I'm going with family which I am not close to and they "do my head in" (lol) so its not even like I am going with friends. But I guess thats something I have to see past for such an amazing opportunity! I know I'm pathetic but its something thats always bothered me. Its set me back so much in life. I should be so excited to be offered this and to want to go but I'm not because I know when it comes to leaving I won't want to go and I can't sit there and cry about it now because I'm not a kid anymore, and as soon as it gets to the second day it I will have had enough. I have booked the time off work to basically tell myself that I can't back out now because I really want to go. How do I overcome this and actually be excited for it instead of finding excuses not to do it. Once its booked thats it, its booked.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2015): Honeypie speaks the truth.
Tell yourself you can always call home if you need to, even every day. Bring a music player with your favourite songs from home, some family photos and a familiar stuffed animal. You can close your eyes at the end of each day and imagine yourself back at home with your mum and your music. I'm sure there are British pubs and fish & chips places in NYC too which you can visit (assuming you're English).
If there's enough time, you could go on a short trip yourself before the main event just to get used to it. Like a bus ride to another town and back. Or stay a night or two in a hotel nearby. Hopefully you'll see it's not that bad.
New York is definitely worth seeing. Picture yourself there walking the streets. Think of the exciting selfies you can post later. Read a travel guide to pick out things you really want to see to start getting excited about it. Or just think how you'll feel if you DON'T go, and having to live with never knowing what would have happened and having that feeling of missing out. Good luck!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (6 January 2015):
 Take it AS an adventure.
DO it for YOU, but also for your mom. Think of all the things you can tell her about when you get back! And take it as a test to see how FAR you have come.
YOU know, they DO have phones in America. So if you MISS her like crazy HAVE a international phonecard and CALL her.
This is a milestone for you. And WHAT a mile stone it is!
Why not SAY yes to going? That way you can't "talk" yourself out of wanting to go.
YOU can do this.
I have ALWAYS had a travel bug. I LOVE to see new places, met new people. But there is NOTHING like coming home.
Spread your wings girl, GO for it!
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