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*eaf4eva
writes:Hi Me and my ex girlfriend have both admited we both still have feelings for each other and we could never hurt each other.And both admit that we were proud to say we are/were each others partners.i just cant get this part of the conversation around my head it was the start of it when she said: "my decision for us to part was by far taken lightly there have been times when ive doubted it "(her desicion)We had no contact for nearly 3 weeks and something unrelated kicked off on facebook and she basicaly bitched/slagged me off and her family got involved (no i didnt retaliatein any shape or form) but this convo has happend in the last 3 days and that part of the conversation i just cant seem to make sense of.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (7 May 2013):
 Ok so she didnt speak to you for 3 weeks, now has come back to you and said that particular comment.
So perhaps she is feeling guilty for bitching about you, and is now trying to be extra nice to make sure she hasnt burnt any bridges with you.
However what she said was "there have been times when ive doubted it" - if she had said to you "I doubt my decision all the time" then perhaps you could get your hopes up that she wants to get back together. But she said "times" which means she doesnt doubt her decision all the time, meaning most of the time she knows she was right to end the relationship.
I really dont think she is coming back I'm afraid, I think this comment was said purely out of guilt for being such a bitch to you (you seem like a genuinely nice guy so it will be hard to be so cruel to a nice guy) and I dont think she meant to give you any hope from that comment.
As I said before, you need to move on - regardless of what she is saying to you, you need space from her to move on and get over her. She was a bitch to you and got her family involved, that is pretty low on her part and you shouldnt tolerate that behaviour. You did the right thing to not retaliate, but you also need to keep in mind that was pretty awful of her and you shouldnt be friends with someone who is going to bitch about you and drag her family into it - you are not even together anymore so she has no right!
Take time out from her, dont speak to her and try your best to move on - I dont think she is coming back so time to let go I'm afraid.
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reader, deaf4eva +, writes (7 May 2013):
deaf4eva is verified as being by the original poster of the questionsorry should have pointed out ! she bitched about me before she said that comment thats how i think after 3 weeks of no contact she did that to get my attention .
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (7 May 2013):
Well if you were taking that comment alone in isolation (i.e. that she took the decision to break up too lightly and she has doubted it) then that would indicate she is a bit unhappy that she chose to break up with you and at times she is wondering if she did the right thing or not.
However if we now move forwards to today, where she has been nasty about you online and isnt speaking to you anymore - then clearly that comment she made doesnt apply anymore, she is 100% happy with her decision now and doesnt want to speak to you anymore.
I think you need to face facts - she doesnt want to speak to you and publicly abused you online. Time to accept this is 100% over, you are not getting back together, she doesnt want to speak to you anymore so you need to move on.
Delete her phone number, delete her on facebook so she cant bitch about you anymore, delete her email address...delete any form of contacting her so even if you have a weak moment you cant speak to her.
Move on with your life, the relationship has ended and now you are not on good terms anymore either. There is no friendship to be had here, all you can do is maintain the no contact to help you get over her.
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