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writes: This girl took an interest in me a few months ago. After getting to know her for a while, we went out a few times, and then I told her I fancied her. At the same time, her ex, who mucked her around last time they went out, told her he had feelings for her still. So she got really confused, and decided to leave it as friends with both of us. Me and her then went out a few more times, and now we are best mates. She said I meant more to her than to go out with me. She was afraid that she would ruin our friendship. So, to not get hurt, I told her that I didn't fancy her anymore, and was happy with it as friends.She then went out with one of my best mates, and dumped him after a month, and now my friendship with him is ruined.She then tells me she still has strong feelings for the original ex, and wants to try it with him, whilst also telling me that she still fancies me, but likes her ex more. So she then says, she is going to go out with her ex, and see what happensI know her ex will muck her around, and she will get hurt, and I have told her that as a friend.But I still really fancy her, and us being best mates has made it impossible to get over her. I don't know how to tell her I still really fancy her. I will tell her, but I don't know how to tell her, and am scared what it will do to the friendship.
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reader, Laine +, writes (11 February 2006):
 hi there, it sounds to me (and you don't give an age for this girl) that shes quite immature and is enjoying the attention, from the many maes in her life, you could do one of two things - firstly you could tell her exactly how you're feeling, that you really would like a monogamous relationship with her, or secondly, you could kinda drift away and make other friends. it seems she's being a little unfair and unfeeling to how you're feeling about what is happening, if this is the case then maybe its time you gave up on her? all she is doing is causing you to hurt.
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reader, beenthere +, writes (11 February 2006):
she might just be waiting for you to tell her that although i see where she is coming from with not wanting to destroy a good friendship. seems to me that she is confused. tell her how you feel and that you don't want to ruin the friendship. then you just have to see what she says
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