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writes: Hi thereI have a very strong relationhsip to someone who I strongly feel would like to commit more but is fearful from past experiences of being hurt. So....... often I have to be incredibly patient. At present things are back on track but I feel he needs to pursue. To this end I hold off contact. This happens quite a lot .....I am unsure often if it will change.Nasiba Reply to this Question
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reader, nasiba +, writes (12 February 2006):
nasiba is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear LianeThak you for your advice. It is often better to hear it from someone else too. I can wait and wait and wait, but sometimes others get in the way and tell me to move on. However him and I are connected in such a way that it often really doens'r matter what others say or think .It is the conviction and strength we both need He can be very open and then distant. However I feel this gets batter when I just leave him aloneThanks again for your reply Elaine
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reader, Laine +, writes (11 February 2006):
 if you really care about this person, then the wait will be worthwhile, don't push him, let him be himself, show affection in small ways, showing you care how your partner feels can be sometimes more to your advantage, ask him if its ok to say how you feel, don't apologise for your feelings, but just take care how you word them. if you're prepared to wait (and it could be a long wait) then you could well be rewarded with a very loving relationship, if waiting isn't for you, i would move on, but stay friends so that you're not adding to his bad past experiences.
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