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writes:Hello, I've wrote a bit in here about my relationship with my boyfriend. We are still arguing about the same things, the lack of sex due to him not keeping an erection, about him being lazy, me feeling that he seems to look at our relationship like its a chore. We live together and he is moving out at some point before the end of July. I'm trying to hold out till then to see if we get on any better, if our sex life picks up but it's getting harder and harder to do that everyday because we just argue about the same damn thing!Then he spends soooo much time at his dads I considered cheating but I brushed it off because my boyfriend; mr t, he is lovely and kind, he has never hurt me and I know he wouldn't. But whenever he goes to work e disappears to his dads and web I'm at work he goes to his dads and then the other night mr t came in at 11:45pm whilst I was asleep and said he just come back from his dads and he dont see the problem. He says it's me, that I'm exaggerating, and I nag too much which I Di nag ecause he don't seem to do it otherwise! And the arguing is getting unbearable I say to myself what be will be but what wil be is coming as slowly and as painfully as it possibly can and I don't know what to do or say to make anything better or to make myself feel better What should I do?
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (2 July 2012):
 If he ditches you or breaks plans with you to go with someone else (anyone else), then I would be upset. You have a right to voice your opinion about that and if he doesn't try to help the situation, you have the choice to spend some time apart.
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reader, FunkeyyMonkeyy +, writes (2 July 2012):
FunkeyyMonkeyy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou for your responses, I don't mind him seeing his dad what so ever, but it's when he makes plan to spend time with me and then he ditches me because his dad has asked to do something that's when it started bothering me. I'm not an unfair unreasonable person but I don't enjoy being ditched.
He's finally listened to me and we ate going to work on it until he moves out and we've came to a decision that if things don't pick up we are going to call it a day
Thankyou for your responses Again
Kind regards Funkeyymonkeyy
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (2 July 2012):
It sounds like the two of you need a break from one another. If the two of you have talked about him not being able to maintain an erection, and he will not see a doctor, I am not sure what you can do. You can't make other people do things they don't want to do. The same with the other aspects of his life. If he is not spending time with you during the week, you have discussed this with him, and he will not do anything about it, you are going to have to decide whether you want to stay with him or leave him. With that being said, you do need to give people a little bit of space. Maybe he enjoys spending time with his dad...what's wrong with that? As long as he is spending quality time with you through the week, you should be ok with that. If you are not happy, maybe you need some time apart to figure out what you really want.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 July 2012):
 You both just need to sit down and come to some sort off arrangement. If he is having serious problems keeping an erection, well instead of putting pressure on him you should be trying to help him, he may need to see his GP if things are that bad.
When it comes to him visiting his dad, well it is obvious he is close to him, which is a good thing. If you feel you do not spend enough time together then tell him that and again come to some sort of agreement where you both see each other through the week. Distance is good in a relationship, so when he is at his dad's why do you not hang out with friends and do other things that do not involve your boyfriend.
You are both very young to be living together. Maybe once he moves out in July it might not be as stressful and you can both take things slow and see if things get any better.
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