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writes:Hi.I need some help, your the only people i can turnto for an honest opinion really.1) I'm Ugly. People tell me im not. My friends tellme im not, but i know full well I am Ugly.I have spots, i have spot cream, and my features just arent right.I would like to meet a guy whos nice, cute, sexy,smart...But i cant. I do have an alright personality. Im loud, i joke, i make sarcastic comments. I split up with my last bf in February on the 15th.Can you tell me something to help get rid of theugliness. I have some days were i feel gorgeous, and when boys watch me. The way i walk changes, i swing myhips more. I look up instead of looking at my feet all the time.Please tell me something i could do.
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reader, Ophiana57 +, writes (10 May 2007):
Are you a teenager or in your mid twenties? If so shouldn't worry too much. There are phases we all pass through and feel inferiority, ugliness etc., whilst that would not be the case. You're still young.
Just don't pick on the spots and make them worse. In my young age I used cummin seeds' paste and could get rid of the spots. If you drink tea in the morning have it with some honey instead of sugar (or honey+ cinnamon powder in warm water every morning). That'll tone your facial skin too.
(Remember, critisism is useful for improvement,take it with a pinch of salt. You're intelligent enough to understand what I mean).
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reader, jtaunton5410  +, writes (10 May 2007):
 Ya know? Sometimes I feel exactly the same way. I am gonna be honest, I have had acne since I was 12. I am 20 now. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months and he always tells me how beautiful I am. I dont see it but when I wear make-up I do. I dont wear a lot to where I look like a doll I just wear concealer to cover up the flaws and always wear mascara and eyeliner on the bottom lashes. When I see myself like that its like a trasnformation. Dont worry you will find a man out there that doesnt see what you do and will tell you how beautiful you are. I sure did, in the mean time just try to cover up those flaws you feel you have, and we all have them.
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reader, MinxLegs +, writes (10 May 2007):
 Everyone at some point feels that they are unattractive. It is all down to your self esteem, is there something else in your life that is putting pressure on you ( for me it is going through a breakup) I feel so low and i tell myself that i must be fat and ugly or he would still want me. I know i am not but it is just me trying to make sense of a bad situation. Look at your good points and your achievements. Try telling yourself that you have so much to offer and are a great person.Sounds cheesy but it does work.
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reader, billie1983  +, writes (10 May 2007):
You are me just a few years back. and i think i was worst.there are days you feel gorgeous and you think why don't i have a boyfriend can't they see how cute i am but mainly you feel bad, you are too fat, too ugly, too much spots etc... i had to wait to be 15 to kiss a guy for the first time. the thing you suffer from is called "teenage". it as simple as that! you are growing, i know it doesn't help to say that it will change and you will learn to love yourself but you are in the bad part of your life now.and one day you are goin to look back and think "god it was terrible" but it is what makes you stronger.you have the luck to have friends that see how beautiful you really are so you should stop focusing on what is bad about you but focus on what is good. Guys in there 16s are not the best juges, they don't think with their heads so don't worry about boyfriends. enjoy the moment with your friend coz to be honest you don't need a boyfriend just yet.i've been there, i was terrible, i wish i could burn all the picture but now i feel pretty, i have a lovely boyfriend who tells me that everyday and i learned how to like myself. you will do to but it will take time.time will heal what you call your "ugliness", it's only "teenage"
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reader, NJmomabear +, writes (10 May 2007):
 Are you a victum of mental or emotional abuse or does manic-depression run in your family? If what your saying is true the one with the distorted view must be you if everyone can see the beauty in you but you. You need to learn the art of self-love. That and counceling dear, or maybe some hypnotherapy.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (10 May 2007):
 You need to get to a place where you look in the mirror and YOU think you look amazing, and not care what others think but this can be a hard place to get to when you feel so low. I have periods in my life when I feel the way you do and I walk around looking down because I feel people are laughing at me and thinking horrible things about me. I know I have to change the way I think, not the way I look.
Some people say "if I could just change .... my life would be perfect" but this just isn't the case. Our bodies could change into the 'perfect' thing but if our minds still feel the same as before, we'll still be unhappy. Chaning your thought pattern is really the only way to overcome this unhappiness and move forward.
Maybe see a counsellor to work some confidence back into you, you need it. Treat yourself to a new haircut, new clothes and get your body in the shape you want it to be in. None of us are going to turn ourselves into catwalk models but we can sure make ourselves feel a bit better with a bit of pampering. It doesn't matter what others think, you have to look in the mirror and love what you see.
Some of the richest, most attractive people on earth have been known to be the unhappiest. It doesn't mean everything, be happy, make lot's of other people happy and really make your life count. Don't spend time worrying about these things that really only matter to shallow idiots.
Good luck and hold your head up, honey. xxx
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