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writes:Can you go back to your husband after a separation if you have seen someone else whilst you were away from him. I still see this man but he has a lot of baggage and now i am talking to my husband who just wants me to go back there are no financial problems. Reply to this Question
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (18 January 2009):
 ~~~~LOVE MAY BE DORMANT~~~~
~~~~BUT IT NEVER DIES!!~~~~
Connely Cowan and Menly Kinder
YES!You can go back, however in all fairness be sure that it's what you really want. You need to know that things are really going to be better. That whatever brought about the seperation has been retified and that reconcilliation is warranted. Remember that you are going to have to let go of the other man completely! If not, you are going to do more damage to your marriage.
Don't go back just to fulfill a simple need. Go back because you love him and you want to make it work. Make sure that your husband is being up front and sincere. It seems that he may be a bit jealous that someone else wants you! Take your time in proceding to move back, but DO TALK, DATE AND HAVE FUN WITH YOUR ASTRANGED HUSBAND. Try to not get sexually involved too quickly, this gives you both time in getting to know one another again without sex being the main focus. It's best to not be involved with anyone else either sexually. If you want to date someone else, be sure that your husband is ok with this as long as you don't sleep with anyone. Ask that he do the same.(Bridging) All of this gives you time to reflect on yourselves and your marriage.
Personally I don't think if you really want to be together that you should delay things too long and I really think it best to not date at all BUT concerning the situation things have already gone past that so it changes the conception. After all you are already seperated but if the entire situation isn't carefully considered then it could lead to more problems.
If you STILL love one another then I suggest you set things straight quickly, talk it all out and reconcile so that you don't loose anymore precious time together. AFTER ALL IT WAS GOD'S PLAN TO BE MARRIED AND LIVE HAPPY EVER AFTER. NO ONE SAID IT WOULD EVER BE EASY, OR WITHOUT TROUBLES, BUT WITH GOD'S HELP, IT CAN CERTAINLY BE CHANGED INTO THE UNION IT WAS MEANT TO BE.
REMEMBER THAT ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE
AND IT'S NOT A FAILURE UNLESS YOU NEVER REALLY TRY!
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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