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writes:OK im 15 and i know i'm not ready for sex. I am not stupid and am so scared about pregnancy. So i am going to wait a year but i want to do 'everything else' if you know what i mean. I have done some things but i just hate the fact that once you have 'given head' to someone or given a hand job, the whole world knows with who and how it was. I HATE THAT. How do i get over that scaredness and just give me any pointers to do with what i'm writing.Thankkkkks x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2008): What do you mean safe foreplay?
Naa jus go for it!
Foreplays great aha im 15 too.
How far have you gone then?
Have fun but be careful if your gonna have sex (:
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reader, NextHowardStern  +, writes (5 March 2008):
If you have to ask the world for safe ways to foreplay, I think you should not be doing it. If you have to ask, means that you will continue to ask and eventually it could lead to unwanted pregnancy. The safest thing I can tell you, is don't put yourself in a postion you may regret later.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (4 March 2008):
 If everyone is going to know everything about your sexual encounters, then you are not with the right person. Sex is not something that should be discussed through the rumor mill or be fodder for gossip, so either you or your partner is being indiscreet. Perhaps its due to lack of maturity on your partners behalf or the fact that you are being far to casual over participating in an act that you should be very serious about! Frankly, I don't accept it as normal that other people should know about this and neither should you. Your reputation, and his, are yours and yours alone, and they don't come with magic eraser! If you have (friends tell secrets - so keep them to yourself!) or he has a loose tongue, be prepared to deal with the fallout or - better still - Make better choices!
Take great care in considering WHO you are doing things with. You SHOULD be scared and treating the whole idea with reverence, after all, the entire POINT of sex is that it creates a baby!! You shouldn't be fooling around with anyone who would treat you badly, gossip, or brag about being with you. He should be the type of person who treats you with an enormous amount of respect. He should also be a person that you love and respect as well, because he is the *Potential Father of Your Child*. Everything else that *leads up* to sex is ALSO a sexual act that you should only consider within a truly loving and committed relationship together, so that you WON'T have any worries about what you are doing.
If you are having worries - WAIT! These are the beginning experiences of your future sex life and you deserve to have a healthy, wonderful beginning to yours! Take good care of yourself with the decisions that you make for yourself. The average age STILL for the majority of people losing their virginity is 17+, so you really don't need to rush this. And it is far easier to navigate the whole experience once you get into Uni, where you aren't bumping into the same people in the hallways and you have more life experience under your belt as far as relationships go.
It's probably really boring advice, but you are ALSO probably feeling pressure on your end to "Do What Everybody Else is Doing". A lot of times, they are embellishing and not doing as much as they say they are. Sometimes they may also tell you in the hopes that you will do it too and that it will validate there having done it - especially if they have had regrets about it later. You can't have regrets if you make good choices! That little voice in your head, the one that says "I'm not stupid" and "I know I'm not ready for sex" are the ones that you need to pay attention to - because you are absolutely right and are a very smart young woman. Use your woman's intuition and let your common sense be your guide.
It actually takes a long time to get good at sex, especially for women, so being with a committed partner who you trust, love, and can communicate with, is crucial to a great sex life. It actually gets better the longer you are with that one person, but it does take a while before it all goes like clockwork. I hope that you are happy in the future with all of the choices that you are making for yourself today. Best of Luck, Take Care and Practice Safe Sex Until Marriage! I can't help it, I'm a Mom, It's like Verbal Diarrhea...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2008): Honey Sweet. You're wrong
its not legal to have sex yet, but its ok to do the other stuff.
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reader, Honey Sweet +, writes (4 March 2008):
 well.
I think it is legal.
use flavoured condoms though.
just keep it secret in a clear, empty space with him
I hope this helps
Honey
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reader, hello1 +, writes (4 March 2008):
 How would they know? unless you or that other person blurted it out to someone?
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