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writes:Can you change a commitment phobic man? He keeps coming in and out of my life. He has not had a g/f since me just retreats to his cave or goes out to dinner with his older friends. I know he loves me but his fear is so great He had been deeply hurt once. Is there anything I can do? I really love him. Do I just let him retreat for awhile until his fear is gone? I have been on dates during this and met some nice men who want to take it further but I haven't been able to do this becuase of my love for him. Any suggestions? Reply to this Question
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reader, ugh101 +, writes (19 July 2009):
 This is the rule that i would apply here,
DO NOT EVER think that you can change a guy. Take him for what he is. Or let him go.
But try to dig into his past and find out what happend and help him get throught that if you can.
Good LuckXX
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reader, wherestheinstructions?  +, writes (18 July 2009):
He's not going to change simply because you want him to - it has to come from him, and may never happen.I think you should also consider why you are attracted to a man who is emotionally unavailable - perhaps deep down you also have fears of commitment, and the yearning you get from not quite having him as yours is less scary, and feels more real, than having those other guys who really do want to take it further.
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