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writes:Is it possible for ex's to see eachother again? My ex boyfriend has suddenly started speaking to me regularly after nearly 2 years since we were in a relationship and he's very flirtatious and keeps trying to arrange for us to meet out and go on a date. But is this realistic? If it didn't work before-which was due to a breakup of a silly little argument, surely it won't work again?And i'm a bit confused because he's never acted this interested, just all of a sudden and he's had girlfriend's since me, but i haven't had boyfriends since him but he doesn't know that.He claims that i won't give him a chance and i come across cold and defensive but i believe that is because he's not looking for a relationship like me, but i could be wrong and i don't want to fall in his trap and start loving him again to find out he doesn't love me back.. and i'm not even entirely sure he's being 100% serious about this or whether he just wants to have a good time with me as he's very popular with the ladies and is hardly ever in relationships but sleeps with them.. but he swears he has changed and he just wants to settle down now with a lovely girl. What's your opinion? What are his intentions?
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reader, searbear +, writes (19 July 2009):
searbear is verified as being by the original poster of the question I don't know what i want really, in some senses, yes i do want to start seeing him again.. he was a lovely boyfriend, always treated me right, did everything perfect. We've always been friends before and after we went out with eachother, but just recently it seems to have gone further. I do like him, i'm just not sure if i like him that much and i prefer being with him/hanging out with him when he's taken because i know what the boundaries are and i've always stuck by them and i liked it because i knew we were just friends.
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reader, miso32  +, writes (18 July 2009):
Honestly? Instead of thinking if his intentions are sincere think about what you want. Is he the kind of man you want to be with? Did he treat you well? It doesn't sound to me like friendship is what this is about. He sounds like the type that wants what he can't have and then as soon as he has it, doesn't want it any more. As difficult as it is, if I were you I'd tell him you don't want to reopen that can of worms. Or simply be vague and tell him life is hectic right now and you aren't up for meeting. These types of men are so diffficult because they're so often charming -argh - I can feel your pain, girl!
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