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writes:My ex and I broke up two weeks ago after a year of going out. We're both 15, (i know, I shouldn't be worried about this, but still). We broke up b/c we didn't have much to talk about or say to one another anymore, not because we didn't still care about each other. In fact, we both still do care about each other. We decided to stay friends. Is it possible to truly remain friends with your ex? Any insight or advice would be greatly appreciated! x
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (26 January 2011):
As you have been told, it depends on you and your ex.
But let me add that you will find another guy, eventually. And this new guy may not like the idea of you being friend with your ex-boyfriend.
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reader, foolishsage +, writes (25 January 2011):
 Hi sorrely,It's entirely possible for people who break up to still be friends, though more often than not, it will be painful for at least one of the people because it's hard to care about someone and not be able to be "that person" for them.On the flip side - let me ask you this. If you didn't have much to talk about with her anymore, then what kind of a friendship is that going to make? While my ex-wife and myself get along better now than when we were married, that's a rarity and we also have children together... The truth is that I know very few people that are friends with any of their exes. Most people would rather invest their time and energy into new relationships and friendships that are less complicated. If it honestly won't hurt either one of you to see the other with someone else and you both get something out of the friendship and can enjoy talking to one another and hanging out together - then great. If not - well, what's the point?
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reader, hrcdlhaml27 +, writes (25 January 2011):
 It depends on your personal preference, how comfortable you are with it. The way I see it, it will be very awkward, cause if you find another person to go out with, then the ex can get jealous and still have possible feelings for you. With me, how it works, is once I'm dating the guy, he and I can never go back to being friends if we break up--it's all or nothing. There's no such thing as "let's just be friends" because that would put me in a really awkward place and possibly feel threatened. I have a best friend that's a guy, and if we ever start to date, and then it's not working, then I can damage the friendship the we have---He's too good of a friend for me to even attempt to start dating him. He is more like a brother, and it will always be that way. That's just my insight. It's up to you to decide what you want to do. Hope I helped you.
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