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writes:My boyfriend and i seem to be on different planets. We have plans. But he refuses to live to a budget. And worse he has walked off several jobs. When this happens he ends up borr9owing from Mr.If we have very different ideas on budgeting is there hope for is? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCaring guy you are one step ahead. He has already been in trouble over his finances . And promised it would not happen again .
This week he's sulking becos i refused to 'lend' him a grand and he has idea to do something he says i'll love.
I can see i need to rethink this. He can be very charming but he to be responsible . You all gave great advice thank you
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 May 2012):
I don't see this working. In today's world, you really do need to be with someone who understands money. It's not that money is the most important thing, but it's no good you being with a big spender who can't commit to work and lands himself in debt if you want any kind of future - such as a house, kids, cars, holidays, food on the table etc.
His poor management of money will wind up with you covering all his debt whilst he walks from job to job. Then one day, you'll have a visit from the debt collectors, or something like that, and you'll realize you've wasted time.
You can't be with someone who lives for themselves.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (22 May 2012):
 folks need to be on the same page fiscally to make a relationship work.
I'm very bad at budgeting so I leave that to my partner. I make more than he does but he's in charge of what I can and cannot spend.
I don't agree with his habits but we have plenty of money and are debt free except for our home and one of our two cars, so he gets to approve all purchases.
if he can't or won't live on a budget and he won't defer to you in terms of who's in charge of the spending of your money together, then you probably can't fix this.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (22 May 2012):
 Nope, unless you want to pay for his debts forever.
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