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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I was with my ex boyfriend for 6 months on and off and lost my virginity to him. He had commitment issues and couldn't handle our relationship and ended up breaking up with me. He insisted that we still be friends as he didn't want to lose me. We've hung out once since our break up and he started acting like my boyfriend again, cuddling with me and saying how much he missed me. He made plans for us but called me only 2 weeks later and I found out he partied that same weekend. After that,during winter break he called me twice and texted me three times but I didnt reply. Now we are back at school and I saw him the other day and we talked. It was casual and he asked why I had been ignoring him and I said I was really busy. But I dont know if he is mad at me cause he didnt seem like it, he was friendly as always. A couple of hours later, I saw him again talking and laughing with these two girls and I felt like crying right there. I miss him so much and want to be over him but I just cant, seeing him again just brought back old memories. I just feel so sad that he is such a player and jerk and that I actually fell for him. I feel like I will never get a real relationship. And I dont know how to act when I see him around and I know that I will run into him again. Has anyone been in this situation and have any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2009): i m in it with my girlfriend i still want her i cant forget bout her she my everything i treat her like she's a qeen i went through a whole bullshit to try to be with her
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reader, artistical_bumblebee +, writes (12 January 2009):
 he messed with your emotions a little bit babe, i know how it hurts but then every person in the world does. Regardless of whether you think about it guys get hurt to , in very similar if not the same, circumstances.
He kept you waiting on his call. But truth be told your not his gf anymore. He is not your responsibility. If you have been busy you have been busy.Hardly a reason for him to throw a strop.You can not expect to carryon like a couple when you are no longer one. move on, get a grip because he certainly has.He is chatting up other girls what more do you need?it hurts yeah, but you know what? if you let it hurt hes won. So if you ready, start dating. Don't go back to him that is what he expects. Flirt have fun. We are young that is what we are supposed to do and not get hung up on silly little boys. Enjoy yourself, every lad loves a confident girl and nothing will aggreviate your ex more than seeing a confident-without him you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2009): my situation is not exactly similar, but i understand what youre going through. i was with my ex for a pretty long time too and he turned out to be a jerk and a player. it was really hard to see him with other girls later on, especially when he would still try and be so close to me and treat me like his girlfriend when we were alone.
the only thing you can do is really, try and keep your distance. you dont need someone in your life who's going to hurt you and cause you pain that you dont need. find something else to do when you start thinknig about him. do the things you like and hang out with the friends that you have. it may seem like you wont have another relationship now, but really, it just takes time. when you least expect it someone else will come.
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