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anonymous
writes:Hi every body i have something abnormal when it comes to the matter of heart. Every time when i feel that a guy loves me and i find some emothional feeling in my heart this guy treats me like his lover but they never speak about it. every time it starts like this and after i love them they leave me or marry another one. i am sure about their love but i can't understand why it ends up like this every time. somthing in my mind tells me that it is due to my age because i am elder than all of them and they knew that at the very begining. another thing is may be because my financial point and my work is more than their which makes me stronger than them and this point is a great deal in mediterian countries. men in our area like to be more powerful than the one that he choose to marry.Now another guy is loving me and he knows that i am 9 yr older than him. please if you can help me i will be gratefull because it seems to me that he began the second part of my emotional life and he doesn't intend to say any thing while he treats me like a jealouse lover.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2009): Thanks for all of you.i gues that you didn't look carefully when i wrote that every time they treat me like their loved one without saying any thing about love just they show their boddy language to show their love and jealousy to me.also i want to tell you that i am virgin and neither my faith nor my tradition allows me to have sex without marriage.till now i didn't go out for a date with any one.simply our culture and belief are very different.every time younger men go after me because i am very beautiful and i look like their age ..after considering these points can any one help me how i make this guy speak.
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (10 October 2009):
 Do you go after the younger men or do the younger men come after you? Why are you not dating the guys your age?
It might be because they are using you. You are older, more financially secure, and are more stable in life. Stop dating for a while until you know why you are dating these types of men.
Another piece of advice is that just because you "feel" they love you doesn't make they actually do. Some guys (and girls) are great actors and take advantage of others to make their lives better. You know when someone loves you through their words and actions. (Pay attention more to their actions then their words.)
These men did not love you if they left you for other women. You need to more careful before you start to assume someone loves you.
Give this guy a chance but don't give him your heart and don't assume things right away. Take it very slow and let him prove how much he likes (or loves) you. Observe his body language and his actions and from that you can usually tell how he really feels about you.
Good Luck!
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