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writes:Here is the story: I've gotten a role where I have a romantic partner, and my girlfriend is super nervous. She says she trusts me in the sense of knowing that nothing will happen between me and the actress off the stage. I've always been faithful to my girlfriend. But she says she is very hurt when she thinks of what I might feel when I kiss the actress. She says she does not worry about emotional involvement (romantic feelings) but she fears that I might get aroused or something and to the point of "it" being very obvious (if you know what I mean) . For those who do or have done theater with romantic couples, do stage/acting kissing lead to this kind of reaction or the whole thing is different from a real life moment? Can male actors manage to "remove" themselves from the scene enough so that the kiss does not make you aroused? Do you think with time and practice is becomes easier not to get involved like that? Or the actor can never separate the two? I appreciate if people leave serious answers. I know many guys will just say that man will always get horny, acting or not. That is why I would like for people to share their own experiences on this subject. I really love acting but I do not want my girlfriend get hurt by the whole thing. I also want to make clear that it will be a technical kiss, the actress and I have agreed not to use tongue. I don´t know if it matters but I am 28.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (15 January 2011):
 Are we talking about camera or stage here ? ...
If it's stage, the way I was taught- in a well known acting school - not only you don't use tongues, you don't even have lips -to-lips contact . You place your lips just under her lower lip / above her chin, and you angle your heads and bodies in a way that looks as if you were really kissing.
Not terribly intimate- plus, you have people watching you , and your concentration will probably be on your next lines and physical actions.
But, hey, if it happens it happens. It's just a passing, involuntary reaction. Like, somebody blows dust over you- and you sneeze. I can understand your partner may still be uncomfortable at the idea, but, after all, it's a job-
you do what you are told to do, it's not like it was your idea and you 'd actually kiss the actress in real life.
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reader, DemetriusR +, writes (15 January 2011):
DemetriusR is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust to make things clear I am not attracted to the actress I am working with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2011): I'm an actress,and I've done a couple of sex scenes.It's nerve wracking at first,and especially knowing that people are watching you. What you need to keep in mind is that it's a natural reaction to get aroused in that situation. It's not the end of the world if you do. Just have a talk with your co star beforehand and make sure you're both comfortable with each other. She'll understand, I'm sure.Sex scenes are usually quite technical,figuring out what goes where to make sure you're not in the other actor's way,making sure it looks real,etc. Rehearse it well before you do it,it will take some of your nerves away,and it will make it easier when you perform the scene.Jealousy can be a big problem when you're in a relationship and you get a part that involves a sex scene, but keep in mind that it is just a job. You're not yourself when you're kissing your co star,you're playing someone else.Try to relax,don't think too much into it and make sure you talk to your co star.You'll be fine,I'm sure.Break a leg!
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reader, AuntyMaur  +, writes (15 January 2011):
 I wonder why you are so concerned. Are you attracted to the actress? its not uncommon for chemistry to grow between actors especially when there is a physical attraction. it is up to you to control the situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2011): I think it would be very awkward. Kissing infront of hundards of people, and to a girl you barely know! i can see it being a hard time being in the moment, to get horny. I wouldn't worry about it! Its just a peck, that will last a second, and the entire time you are thinking about "omg does my breath stink?" "am i kissing okay?" and "omg..everyone is watching me", im pretty sure you aren't thinking "omg..this kiss feels soooo good mmmm" hahaha.
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