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writes:The guy Im seeing still meets up with his ex girlfriend - they are really good friends. I think I mind a little bit deep deep down but purely based on my own insecurities and because I like him. Can smoeone who has been in this situation tell me if it can ever work being with a guy who is best mates with his ex?
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reader, Rex0328  +, writes (3 September 2008):
Its gonna happen. He probably will leave you for his ex. You are all young and if that is his first chances are he still feels for her but shes stringing him along because she needs a friend. And thats all he will ever be to her. Dont follow this viscious circle of insecurity or youll end up like him. Oh and one hint I can give you:
The most attractive quality in a woman is confidence. You have to FEEL not WANT TO FEEL that he will never have eyes for noone else because YOURE all that!
If you don't feel this that the relationship is destined to fail.
Take care of yourself before u take care of someone else. And if it comes down to the fact that because of your insecurities you find that he is still into his "best friend" let him go. If and when he comes back make sure you have your confidence only then will you know if his gesture is authentic or not.
Sincerely,
The male version of you not so long ago
and the strung along sukker boyfriend(like yours) at the same time
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (3 September 2008):
 I'm with all the other aunts, sure it can work.
My boyfriend is close friends with one of his ex's, they have even hanged out alone. Of course, I did feel kind of bad at firs, but I trust them both and I know that my boyfriend will be loyal. Also, I have to realize that they were very very close friends before they went ou.
The thing that most people tend to forget is that befor they went out with their partners, that they used to be good friends. When they end it, they forget all of the past memories. Some, of course, don't forget and try to reach their exs for friendship like me, the other aunties, and many people out there.
So what you gotta do is trust your boyfriend when he talks to his ex. One thing you could ask him, though, is to be honest with you and try to not hide anything. This will likely ease your head a bit.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (2 September 2008):
 Course it can hun.
I am mates with my ex husband. We divorced 16 yrs ago, but we did have a brief fling when we were both single a yr ago, was out with him and some mates saturday just gone as it happens.
Still get on fine with kids dad too, although we dont socialise together, and still speak to an ex from 4 yrs ago on facebook.
I'm no threat to any of their girlfriends. Although one of my ex hubbys women didn't let him have anything to do with me for a while, but i forgave him for that after they split and it was her problem not his!
The key here is if he is happy for you to be mates with her too. If he's not, then it could be something to be concerned about?
C xxxxx
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reader, Straight Up1  +, writes (2 September 2008):
 Sure... I can tell you that I am good friends with all of my exes and in particular the most recent.you have to have alot of trust and be very secure with yourself and your relationship, but it can work fine.Although don't be blind... if she was the one that dumped him...he could be playing the friend card hoping to get another shot at her.just pay attention...and make sure that you aren't getting left behind all the time when they get together..then ex or any girl..this is a warning sign!!
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