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writes:hi i was in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost a year and we lost are virginity together and because the relationship was becoming a bit mediocre we decided to be just friends. but ever since that, i think that im in love with him and i just cant forget about him: to be honest, i dont want to be just friends.i think he knows this and even though we say are friends we cannot seem to strike a conversation because its too awkward. recently ive seen him because we have the same friends and both of us were a bit drunk and we made out. im not sure, but i was thinking that this could represent some feelings for me. he did say that he missed me when i said i missed him. do you think he meant it? do you still think i have a chance with him? could i win him back?
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reader, Marco262  +, writes (26 June 2008):
Sounds like you two have some emotional baggage that's weighing down this friendship. The only way to tell if you really are feeling something real for each other is to get over this awkwardness. And the only way you'll be able to get over this awkwardness is to accept that you missed your chance with this guy.
This isn't as bad as it sounds...once you both accept your friend status and become comfortable with each other again, that will tell you whether you both really ARE in love with each other, and then you have the chance to get back together. Many people aren't capable of completely letting go like this, though, so there's another way to tell if you're really in love with him...
Your second option is to completely break off contact with him for a month or two. No talking on the cell phone, chatting online, nothing. Delete all his contact information and tell him to delete yours. If you're going out to a party, don't worry about whether he's there or not, but make a point to keep any conversation with him brief and to the point. If you can, try to hook up with someone else in the meantime. If you go two months like this and you're still infatuated with him, then it's probably worth trying again...
Hope that helped!
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