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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey guys.. I need help here. So i have been trying to reconcile with my ex who is a male.Long story short, he was my bestest friend and although we never clearly opened up to each other that we are gay/bi, i can sorta confirm he liked me (romantically). He dropped a lot of hints and actually mentioned things like "This is to prove my love to you" and all those romantic stuff while we were together last year. We'd get jealous easily when any of us talk to pretty girls and we joked about living together.Anyway, so we kinda broke up (although our r/ship wasn't considered official). It's been almost a year since the day we last talked and i have been the one trying to win his heart back. I always notice him looking at me or deliberately stealing glances towards my direction which really confuses me. I'd always feel hopeful that it means we still stand some chances to get back together but every time i talk to him, he seems either shy or hostile, as if he's trying to avoid me. He's extremely hardworking now and i always see him study in school even after all his classes have ended all the way to evening. I've been motivated to do the same and last week before our school closed (around 8+ pm) i tried asking if he wanted to go home together, he said "no thank you i'd rather be alone, thx anyway". I was crushed.So does he still want me or not? I'm trying to improve myself in studies and as a person because i admit our break up was due to both sides' mistakes and i acted very horribly like a bastard. Anyone think we can still get back together? What should i do now? I am no longer as clingy and have been doing those "give him space and time" and "no contact" thingy. But i just wonder if what i'm doing is worth it. And no, please if possible, i don't want to know i have to move on when the chance is clearly there. Thank you...
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reader, kaiti30  +, writes (1 May 2012):
 Okay i have a few suggestions1. You can gradually sstart talking to him (facebook, texting etc...) ask how hes doing, and try to keep a conversation going, and gradually work up to hanging out, zand all that, this isnt the fastest way, but it may be the most successful...2. throw yourself out there, make him notice you, and miss you... I dont reccomend this one, mostly because i dont know if he was clingy or not, but if he somewhat, this might work, 1 because he may get jelous, 2 because hell be like "damn i miss you"3. tel him starigh up hoiw you feel, that you want to be frineds, and want things to go back to how they were, and u can work on fixing things, this cna be in person or over texting or facebook etc... perferably face to face, so hed have to listen and give feedbackhope thhis helps!
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