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writes:I'm 16 years old, and I hate, hate, hate my boobs.They're cone-shaped and point downward. I'm 36B, and I'm completely healthy. I'm terrified when boyfriends ask to see them. In the past, I've had guy friends accidentally see them, and all they had to say was "Eh... they're not good."And those were guy friends I've had for years and could trust...Even my sister and her friends used to pick on me and call me "gorilla boobs".It still makes me cry...I've heard this can be caused by not wearing the right kind of bra when you're developing.I also think it might be because I was overweight and I've lost 50 lbs, now I'm normal weight.Is there anything I can do to help them be perky and round? Size isn't an issue here.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (23 January 2013):
First of all: congrats on the weight loss! That's one hell of a journey. I don't know how long you've been at your new weight, but chances are your body just needs time adjusting. When I was your age I was pretty big. At my heaviest I had a D cup (which, compared to the rest of me was pretty small). I eventually lost all the weight (took me about a year) and it basically took another year for my body to get used to this new 'standard weight' and get tight again.
My boobs dropped from the D to a small B cup (more like A if I'm completely honest.) Right now I'm a C and I'm at the same weight now as I was back then when I first lost it all. My body is just more balanced. You have to understand that when you lose that much weight, your body grabs it from the 'easiest' places first, like your boobs, your face, etc. It will normalize after a while, but it takes time. If you are really unhappy about the way you look, try to gain muscle to strengthen your body and make it look tighter. Muscle can lift your breasts quite a bit and though you won't get the exact shape you're looking for, there will be improvement.
But now, onto the more important stuff: the teasing and the ignorant comments from boys. You have to understand that lots of guys your age are 100% hormones and 0% brain. This evens out later on. Men worth their salt truly think like Cerberus: they love boobs in all shapes and sizes and are just happy when the woman allows them to see and touch them. Don't allow guy friends or boyfriends to see them unless they've earned it.
Also, be proud of what you achieved. Many people stay overweight their entire lives. But you have to be patient and give your body some time to adjust. This may take a while. Just eat healthy, exercise and build some muscle for a more streamlined look. But if you do it, do it for yourself, not because of a comment some complete idiot made.
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (23 January 2013):
 I wouldn't worry about them now, you're still young. Your breasts will change size and shape when you start having children, but don't use that as an excuse to get pregnant!!!!
My breasts are quite small i reckon, 34B/36A, however my mum was exactly the same and they got bigger as she fell pregnant with my brother and I.
Point is, don't be so afraid, learn to love yourself and stop worrying about what others think.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2013): Oh boobs, you beautiful lumps of flesh you. Possibly my favourite topic of conversation. I just love them, I mean how can I not? They're boobs and they're all awesome. Big, small, asymmetrical, big nipples, small nipples, inverted nipples, pointing upwards, downwards, hanging to the side, flapping during sex, tweaking the nips, grabbing handfuls of them, putting my face between them, stretchmarks, no stretchmarks, visible veins, pert, saggy, I love it all because I'm a guy and I just love boobs.
OP most guys are like me. I've had sex with over 80 women, I've seen every type of boob you can imagine, I've been with women who didn't even have boobs and just a big nipple. I've been with more than one woman who had one pert boob and really saggy boob. I've even been with a woman who only had one boob and a scar where the other should be after a mastectomy due to cancer. I have never once been turned off by any kind of boob but like anything in life I did have my preferences, just as you find one type of guys ass to be nicer than another type, at the end of the day you're not going to be turned off by a guy not having your favourite type of ass are you?
There is nothing off-putting about how you describe yours, nothing at all. Those idiots teased you because you had something that was noticeably different OP, not because there's anything wrong with them. They;d be the same if you were ginger, or had acne etc. people are just cruel dicks sometimes.
By all means go see your doctor about it, but take it from a guy, we just love tits, juicy, delicious tits, they're all awesome no matter the size and the shape.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 January 2013):
 you can have surgery to change the shape size or lift of your breasts. I do not recommend it. I've had it. I had perky breasts for all of 9 months after my lift.
the only way perky top pillows happen is with implants. My plastic surgeon always says that cleavage and lift are all about the BRAS.
As you grow and mature so will your breasts.. pregnancy and childbirth as well as breast feeding (what they are actually FOR) will change them as well.
Ignore the ignorant boys who say stupid stuff.
Save some money and go get fitted PROPERLY FOR SOME GOOD BRAS. get some pretty ones... (good properly fitted bras can cost around 50 per bra)
also the idea that being fit and healthy and having a good muscle structure is correct... you can't change the shape or size of your breasts with exercise but having a strong healthy musculature (your pectoral muscles) will ensure health and the best line you can manage without bras or surgery.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (23 January 2013):
 Get fit, do some working out appropriate for your age and stop worrying. Most guys are ecstatic to be in the presence of naked boobs. They pay ridiculous amounts of money to do so, so ignore your annoying and ill-meaning ex-boyfriends.
A healthy body will help with a healthy mind and the attitude will alter based on your mental and physical well-being.... In other words, work out. Your pectoral muscles will thank you and your entire picture of yourself will change, for the better.
If you doubt my advice, consider this: if breast cancer came into the picture, how would it change the entire equation here?
Be thankful you are young and healthy and celebrate your physical being, imperfections and all.
Mkay?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2013): There is nothing wrong with yours :) They come in all different shapes and sizes, just like the girls who own them!Best wishesxx
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (22 January 2013):
Hi there. Because you have lost 50 lbs, which is quite a lot of weight, there could be a bit of loose flesh in your breast tissue, which is why they are hanging lower, rather than straight out and down just at the bottom.
And I really think that a large amount of weight lost - 50 lbs - certainly has a lot to do with your breasts drooping, which is what you are really saying, isn't it?
Breasts are made up of mammory glands, and the rest is made up of fatty tissue, which gives the breasts their fullness.
And it is fullness, that you are talking about.
And specifically, a lack of fullness - because of weight loss, and the loss is of fatty tissue all over the body, which of course, includes fatty tissue from the breasts.
So this would naturally be the cause of the droopiness you speak of.
When you had those 50 lbs of weight on your body, you probably found that your breasts just looked normal to you - pointing outwards, as you would expect them to - would that be right?
So I think, there lies the clue.
You don't want to put all that weight back on again, just for the sake of having perky breasts, do you?
Of course you don't.
You are at a healthy weight for your height now, so that it a very positive thing.
As you are clearly worried and self-conscious about this, it would be wise to visit your family doctor and talk to him about this, and ask him whether your breasts would gain their normal appearance in future, and also what are your options.
Breast exercises will only improve the tone of the pectoral muscles which support the breasts.
It won't regain the fatty tissue that has gone because of the weight loss.
The reason I suggest you visit your family GP, is that you need to do something about this - for your own peace of mind - otherwise it's going to get in the way of all your romantic relationships in future.
And it is already a problem for you now, isn't it?
I urge you to see your family doctor, just as soon as you possibly can, and have a friendly chat with him or her.
The sooner you do this, the happier you will be and you will then begin to regain your self-confidence once more.
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