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writes:I am 16 and I am a virgin, I just recently got a really nice girl who happens to be 14. Whenever I look at this I think I am a wierdo, but in all actuality I really just want a good relationship and I think she can provide it. So we were talking and sex got brought up, I've always had the idea I wouldn't have sex until I am married unless I think I will have a long lasting relationship. She isn't a tart girl or anything but she wants to know if I would like to have sex. I don't know if she might seem like a desperate girl to you but she really isn't. I would really like to have intercourse but I always think of how a 16 year old is dating a 14 year old. Can I get some detailed thoughts on what I should do and why? Reply to this Question
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reader, pietry  +, writes (1 January 2009):
 I think you should live your fantasy first. Having sex at such a beautiful age will cut out the beauty of platonic love and jump both of you straight 10 years from now. There is plenty of time for both of you to enjoy life in all it's stages. Don't make yourself older than you are, and don't give away something you have, innocence, as there is enough time to do that when you are ready. And I'm most certain she is not ready as well, perhaps just wanting to be older or testing you.
Sex would change everything about your relationship in a way that you will never get back to what was before. You will not see her and other girls the same as before. Let the mystery be discovered when it has to.
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (1 January 2009):
don't have sex with her! you would be breaking the law and if her parents found out, i'm sure they would report you!
if you really like her then just stick to dates and hanging out. why do young teens always want to jump into bed. i doubt she is ready anyway. she may say she is, but i can't see a 14 year old being emotionally ready for sex. it's not as easy as it looks. the first time is uncomfortable and really hurts her. wait untill you are older.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2009): Don't go there. She is only 14 and is properly just trying to please the older guy. I personally don't think it's right, when I was that age no one in my year would date a girl that age as they would get teased though the year below was fine. In teenage years, two years is so much. You can have sex but she can't. You can get sent to jail for this and you deserve it if you did have sex with her.
Also how many decent 14 year olds have sex?
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reader, PHOBIA MAN +, writes (1 January 2009):
cool your engines! if you have sex with her at 14 you are breaking the law!! you can do some other nice stuff together in he meantime, if you cannot keep it in your pants, just imagine being arrested (OH THE SHAME!!!)besides, treat her with respect, she is technically a child and maybe sooo in love with you she may agree to do stuff just to keep you.Be a man about it and WAIT!!!
You must also consider contraception and diseases!!!!!!!!!
Make a pact together to WAIT!!
AT 14, intercoure=intojail
You can kiss and caress, but keep it decent, OK!
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reader, loner  +, writes (1 January 2009):
 If i was you i would rather wait, a relationship like that wont last to long, i dated my ex boyfriend for 3 months i was 16 at the time and he was 20, he only really wanted sex, he promised the moon and stars, told me one day we will get married far 9 months of using me he found another girl he 'liked' to be honest with you rather wait till your married its the best idea and it will be worth the wait!
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