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writes:Hey everyone,Q: So basically my question is am I being too sensitive?This problem actually just occurred at the turn of the new year 2009! For some background information, my girlfriend is at her friend's place in a house surrounded by like (I'm guessing) 30-40 people, meanwhile I'm at home with my immediate family. So anyways, I texted my girlfriend good luck in her continued academic success, good health, and a continued great relationship with me! and then she replies, "wow that was long. happy new years baby." And it wasn't like I had texted her right after the New York ball fell down because I know I should celebrate the moment with my family; I had texted her at a reasonable time around 12:25am. Now, you may argue that she is probably too-preoccupied with multiple conversations, consequently being distracted. I can agree to that; however, if she has enough time to first say "wow that was long", isnt she being inconsiderate to me?I mean, I'm speaking from the heart. And I know its not a really deep message I'm sending, but nonetheless I'm saying all these nice things to her and then she responds "wow that was long"?! She did tell me in a recent conversation she tends to be careless, not that she means it obviously... but this particular response just kind of shocked me. I ask again, am I being too sensitive?
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reader, shiraz  +, writes (1 January 2009):
hiyah, i dont think your being to sensitive yet your headin in the direction of making something of nothing and its more trouble than its worth so see it now and let it go. when your alone you probablly like to chat and go into deep conversations but its new year shes with people and youve sent her a deep and meaningful text, theres nothing wrong with that i think its just surprised her rather than the usaual origianl 'happy new year!'. she probably just expected less than for you to go into detail, she maybe wasnt in the mood and yeah it can be hurtful but you were both in different places with different people and the way you are around some people isnt always the same with others (if you get that). however dont make an issue as i doubt shes thought of it since and is unaware its affecting you, if it carries on this way you should talk to her but otherwise id let it go. dont worry about being too sensitive little things can sometimes hurt more espically when the other person is unaware.
i dont think she means to come across as careless i just dont think she was prepared and so handled the situation badly, it may of meant a lot to her and deep down shes happy and greatful but showing it is another thing. theres many possibilities but dont hang onto it as it will affect your relationship, id carry on as normal unless she brings it up. best of luck xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2009): Don't read too much into it, it doesn't mean anything. There isn't much you can do about it unless you want to start an argument with her and that won't help. Forget it and just be happy together.
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