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writes:Hai, am 27 year old virgin guy, am a christian and i do not believe in premarital sex. Many women dont believe me because am quite succesful and goodlooking, my question is, is it wrong for me to ask a woman if shes a virgin? Am looking for a loving,respectful,caring virgin woman. Many women get offended, but i do not want to marry a woman who has slept with orther men. if she was raped i would understand and i would date her. I was raised to respect women, i dont judge any woman who has slept around i just want my woman to be all mine.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (1 March 2013):
 I think it's perfectly fine to ask, and no one can be offended if you explain why you ask. You have to tell them why you ask, or else it's actually offensive as it's really none of your business. But if you are intending to date, you should make it clear from the start.
However, try to talk to women who are also christian, because it is more likely that they will be virgins for the same reason as you. It wouldn't make much point if you marry a virgin who worships the devil, and happened to be a virgin just because she hadn't found anyone to sleep with yet. She'd be a virgin, sure, but not for the right reasons, and life with her would be impossible as your religions would crash.
So, I think your first bet should be a religious woman who shares your values and belief.. and then look for a virgin among those.
I work at a christian workplace, and close to everyone there met their spouse at Bible-class. You should go, it's apparently THE place to hook up. It's so common for people to find their spouse there, that one Bible-school even took charge for every couple they had introduced that ended up getting married. I heard about it because they just stopped charging people, and it made the news in our circle, haha!
Bible-class, definitely. Go there.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (1 March 2013):
 OP, I respect your wish for a virgin.... and since you are one too, I think that's a perfectly fine aspiration.
I think YouWish has good ideas... church would probably be the best place to start... or perhaps an online Christian dating site...
I do think that it may be hard to find a woman of your age that is virginal.... so perhaps consider going for a young 20 something young lady. You may actually need to look at 18-20 year olds also but they will be quite immature... and if you date them and have sex and then break up... well then wha
Also, not that you asked about this but I'd like to address something else you said:
"I was raised to respect women, i dont judge any woman who has slept around i just want my woman to be all mine."
Do you think that a woman who has had sex with others would not be all yours?
I have led a very promiscuous life and have NO regrets about it.
I met my husband and thankfully he has a past as do I. We are now married and monogamous. My past is the past and gone as is his.
he is all mine and I am all his. We do not share.
what i did before him does not make me any less his and only his...
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (1 March 2013):
 Well since you yourself is a virgin I can kind of understand your reasoning, except the whole.. I want her to JUST be mine I think is a little offensive, a wife is not property.
I agree with YouWish that a good place would be though your church as you will have a greater chance of finding a woman who shares your views.
However, you are seriously limiting yourself. A woman who's had sex isn't damaged goods and a virgin isn't necessarily going to be the "perfect" wife.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (1 March 2013):
 How to you approach the subject? If you find people getting offended one problem may be the way you bring it up.
Truth be told, it may be pretty hard. Given your age, the chances of finding a virgin in the same age group that you are also compatable with on deeper levels really limits your options. That's not to say you shouldn't try. YouWish was right about where to look.
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reader, Agneta  +, writes (1 March 2013):
 It is not wrong to ask if that is what you want. But asking many details about a woman's sexual past might make you come across a bit odd. If you just tell them what YOU are looking for in a relationship/marriage, ie not gonna have sex before marriage and expecting the same from her, then the women who knows they will not meet up with that will get the hint and can spare you the wasted time without having to answer any specific questions about her sexlife. Just continue being open with what you believe in and you will attract the same.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much helpfull.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (1 March 2013):
 Of course you can find a woman who is a virgin, especially if you are a devout Christian. If you go to church regularly, you can meet up with women who share your convictions.
And you've got respect from me big time for being one yourself! I get pissed when guys come on here wanting virgins but aren't one themselves. I hope you find who you're looking for!
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