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writes:I'm 38 year old guy. A year back my younger brother wife became close to me and we got too closer. Initially i thought she is giving this attention just due to the respect towards an elder brother. I loved it. But finally she was treating me like her husband. And we ended up in having intercourse. Though I am not a person who consider sex as a sin I did never want to interfere into my younger brothers life. I love to have sex, and it is an interesting topic for me. But as she advanced I could not resist, or i did not want to resist.It appeared like she wanted this. But after we had intercourse, i told her that I could not continue this way and requested to spare me. I told her the fact that sex appeals me and I could not resist on it. I requested her to avoid me and let me focus on my family and let her focus on her family.She told me she will try and she was very angry and her expressions were wild... She had convulsed face. I felt sorry for her.How the problem is that she kind of hates me. She express her hatred often. I understand that this happened and it is difficult. But I wish her back as my sweet sister (not just sister in law). Guys you may be laughing now.. realizing the fact that there is a guy who had things done with his sister in law and now expects him to wash it off. But I really say, i wish to be a good brother. I want my sister back. I want her to realize that I rejected her for everybody's good. But I am not sure. Please advice me as to how to deal this. Kindly understand that there is a whole life left for us to live in the same family.
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reader, nikhil_975 +, writes (10 March 2018):
Whatever you did is RIGHT or WRONG is out of question now. But now at least don't do another wrong of calling her a sister. Because, SISTERS ARE SACRED.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2017): Thanks to everyone who cared to read and reply. Few were really guiding and really helped to make my mind.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (26 November 2017):
 What rubbish! Stop calling her your sister and claiming that you're worried for your family's "good". Where was this feeling when your penis was inside her? You didn't just screw her, you screwed your brother as well, but in a whole different way. You reap what you sow and you can't undo your actions. It's only a matter of time before the truth is out and in any case, I think your brother's marriage is over. Nothing to tell you other than this is one of those things there's no coming back from.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2017): Do you all live in the same house? If you do I suggest you move out as far as possible and stop visiting them till this affair is forgotten.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2017): If you and she have feelings for each other you need to see each other as little as possible, and never give an excuse to be alone together, until you two no longer want to seduce each other. I would suggest you see a therapist to work through these family issues and why you would be unable to resist your younger brother's wife. They would also be able to advise you on how to patch things up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2017): The solution would have been keeping your pants zipped. Perhaps it's a good thing she doesn't like you anymore; because your decision to refrain comes after the fact.
You say you can't resist sex? What if it were your wife and another man? What if that man was your own brother? Get out of here with that! Where do you draw the line? You had intercourse with your brother's wife. That was betrayal; but you seem to be concerned about her not liking you anymore?
Wow!!!
Stop worrying about your sister-in-law's feelings about you, and concentrate on your own family. Are you more afraid that she'll spill the beans? That would be the ultimate karma wouldn't it? For now, it's like a dark cloud hanging overhead.
Just continue being nice, and perhaps she will just stay angry; but keep her mouth shut about the affair. Now that's what you should be more concerned about, if anything!
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reader, PJ Roy  +, writes (25 November 2017):
Had I been in your shoes, I'm pretty sure I would not have found the strength to do better.So many times life has thumbed its nose at me when I was damned that I did *not*.But guess what, when I did or tried to, life still thumbed its nose at me because I was damned that I did.Sometimes you feel that you just can't win at this thing."I want my sister back"Look, I *am* in your shoes. And I can tell you, this is a variant of 'having your cake and eating it too'.That convulsed face of hers you saw, was because by outright telling her I want to focus on my family, and you should focus on yours, you made her feel like she's the one who's bad.She could have come to you first and told you the same thing. She did not do that. If you wanted to focus on your family, you could have just done that without having to go all holier than thee. Had she tried to approach you again for second helpings, then you'd have been justified to appropriately decline without making her feel like she's the guiltier party in what *both* of you have done.Maybe you want your sister back... I want my 'friend' back too... but it's just that you can't have your cake and eat it too.
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